Every escort has dealt with them — the ones who message endlessly but never book. They ask a million questions, dodge deposits, and treat your time like it’s free. They’re called timewasters, and they’re not just annoying — they’re expensive. They cost you energy, money, and sometimes even confidence. The good news? Most timewasters follow predictable patterns. Once you know the signs, you can screen smarter, set firmer boundaries, and spend more time with clients who actually value you. Let’s break down how to spot, block and move on — early.
A timewaster is someone who contacts a sex worker with no real intention of booking — or who deliberately drags out conversations without respect for your boundaries or time. They may be:
You’re not being harsh for screening them out. You’re being professional.
Watch out for these classic red flags:
No name. No context. No real effort. Professional clients introduce themselves and state what they’re after. A vague “hey” is often the start of a draining, aimless exchange.
Some questions are fine — but if they:
If they’re not moving toward a date, time, and deposit — they’re wasting your time.
Deposits protect your time. Anyone who:
…is likely planning to flake. A serious client sees a deposit as normal. A timewaster sees it as a challenge.
“Can you do a deal?” “I’ll pay extra for XYZ.” “How about half hour for half price?” This is never a good sign. Good clients respect your rates — bad ones negotiate like it’s a car boot sale.
If they ask for:
They’re chasing thrills without paying for them.
“Babe, you’re so hot I had to message…” “You’re my dream girl, I swear…” If it feels like they’re using your inbox for validation, they probably are. A professional client keeps it polite, not personal.
Here are some easy tips on how to handle timewasters:
Prepare a simple message like: “Hi, I require a deposit and screening to proceed. Please send your name, preferred date/time, and I’ll send payment details.” No fuss. No back and forth.
You are running a business — not giving out free attention. If someone’s offended that you don’t want to “just chat” — that’s their issue.
If it feels off, if they cross a line, or if they’re dragging out the conversation with zero movement — block and move on. You don’t owe them emotional labour or a polite goodbye.
If someone gives you the ick early on, that’s your cue to disengage. Bad bookings start with bad vibes.
Timewasters aren’t harmless. They drain:
That’s why boundaries and filtering aren’t rude — they’re essential.
Sex work is full of emotional labour, and every conversation has a cost. You don’t get that time back. You don’t get compensated for wasted mental effort. And you shouldn’t feel bad for prioritising your peace. The more confident you are about blocking nonsense, the more time you free up for clients who deserve it.
Spotting timewasters early isn’t about being harsh — it’s about being wise. You have the right to guard your time, energy and mental space. Because when you do, you create more room for respectful, rewarding bookings that actually pay off. For more support, strategies and advice on navigating the sex industry, visit the Vivastreet blog.
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