What sex workers really want: 6 things you can do that actually make a difference

Every year on June 2nd, International Sex Workers’ Day rolls around. You’ll see Instagram stories in red, a few think pieces, maybe even some politicians awkwardly tweeting “rights not rescue”.

But let’s be honest — most of that doesn’t actually change anything.

Sex workers don’t need more empty gestures. They need real support, from real people, in everyday situations. Whether you’re a client, an ally, or just someone who believes in human dignity, here are 6 things you can actually do to make a difference — today, and every day.

1. Pay Full Price. Always.

This should be obvious — but for some reason, it still needs saying.

Sex work is work. That means it deserves the same financial respect you’d give any other service. No haggling. No “mates rates.” No “but it’s just for half an hour.”

Would you walk into a restaurant and try to knock £50 off your bill because you smiled at the server? No? Then don’t do it to a sex worker.

If you can’t afford their rate, don’t book. Full stop.

2. Stop Pretending You Don’t Know Anyone in the Industry

Sex workers are everywhere — and you probably already know one.

They’re your Uber driver, your barista, your uni mate, your mutual on TikTok. Not everyone is loud and visible about it, and for good reason — stigma is still real.

So when people make degrading jokes, spread stereotypes, or get nosy about “what kind of person would do that”… remember: someone in the room is probably quietly listening. And now they know they can’t trust you.

If you want to support sex workers, start with your own mouth. And maybe your group chat.

3. Don’t Just Repost — Actually Speak Up

Reposting a graphic is nice. But what really helps? Using your own voice:

• Say something when a friend jokes about “hookers”
• Challenge the idea that sex workers are “less than” or “desperate”
• Speak up when laws threaten their safety
• Share their content, art, writing — not just advocacy pieces

Performative allyship is out. Intentional, vocal solidarity is in.

4. Protect Their Privacy Like You’d Protect Your Own

This one’s especially for clients: You don’t get to out someone just because you know what they do.

Sex workers often operate under stage names, with strict control over where and how their image is shared. Respect that.

Don’t:

• Screenshot their messages or photos
• Share their content without permission
• Ask about their “real name” or day job

You wouldn’t want your private life broadcasted. Neither do they.

5. Support Decriminalisation — Not Just Legalisation

Quick refresher:

• Legalisation often creates more hoops and restrictions, leaving many behind.
• Decriminalisation removes criminal penalties for consensual adult sex work and helps everyone work more safely.

If you want to support sex workers’ rights, listen to what they’re actually asking for. That means:

• Signing petitions for decrim
• Following and amplifying organisations like SWARM, ECP, and Red Umbrella
• Not supporting laws that criminalise clients or third parties under the guise of “protection”

Ask sex workers what they need — not politicians who’ve never spoken to one.

6. Normalise the Work Without Romanticising It

Yes, sex work can be empowering. Yes, it’s valid. But let’s not sugar-coat it.

Not every escort is rolling in cash or booking luxury trips with regulars. Like any job, it has hard days, rude clients, and burnout.

So instead of glamorising or pitying sex workers, just treat it like any other profession:

• Ask thoughtful questions
• Don’t assume you know their experience
• Respect it without fetishising it

Validation doesn’t require exaggeration.

The Takeaway

This International Sex Workers’ Day, don’t stop at a social media post. Show up. Speak up. Pay up. Respect boundaries. Protect privacy. Fight for rights.

Sex workers aren’t asking for special treatment — they’re asking for dignity, safety, and the same respect every other worker deserves.

For more advice on supporting the sex work community, visit the Vivastreet blog.