{"id":2515,"date":"2021-04-23T17:31:49","date_gmt":"2021-04-23T16:31:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/?p=2515"},"modified":"2023-03-23T18:10:29","modified_gmt":"2023-03-23T18:10:29","slug":"signs-of-a-healthy-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"19 signs of a healthy relationship and how to build one"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While no relationship is perfect, it&#8217;s fair to say that we all desire a healthy one.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But many of us find ourselves in relationships that are dissatisfying or detrimental to our emotional and mental wellbeing.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"#whatisahealthyrelationship?\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is a healthy relationship?<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"#signsofahealthyrelationship\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Signs of a healthy relationship<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"#howtogetoutofatoxicrelationship\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to get out of a toxic relationship<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"#buildingahealthyrelationship\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building a healthy relationship<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A survey commissioned by money-transfer service TransferWise and carried out by YouGov revealed that <\/span><b>60% of us tolerate and stay in bad relationships<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that we don\u2019t find fulfilling, while silently accepting our partner\u2019s negative behaviours.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, what constitutes a healthy relationship and how can you and your partner build one to keep the love and bond strong, happy and everlasting?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Read on to find out.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"whatisahealthyrelationship?\"><b>What is a healthy relationship?<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In short, a healthy relationship is one that is positive, compatible and adaptable.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it really depends on the people involved. There isn\u2019t one rule for a healthy relationship, as everyone has different needs and expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your needs regarding communication, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/surprising-health-benefits-of-sex\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, affection, space, morals, values, life goals and interests may differ from your partner\u2019s, which can impact the health of your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, if your partner prefers to have a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/open-relationship-guide\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">polyamorous relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as opposed to a more traditional relationship, they may define a healthy relationship differently, which may not work for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both you and your partner\u2019s outlook on life may also change as you experience different phases in your life, which is normal.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it\u2019s important for you and your partner to address and deal with your differences to avoid the risk of an unhealthy relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2519 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/what-is-a-healthy-relationship.png\" alt=\"Young couple in a healthy relationship kissing on bed\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/what-is-a-healthy-relationship.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/what-is-a-healthy-relationship-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/what-is-a-healthy-relationship-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/what-is-a-healthy-relationship-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/what-is-a-healthy-relationship-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"signsofahealthyrelationship\"><b>Signs of a healthy relationship<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First and foremost, it\u2019s important to know that no healthy relationship can be built by one person alone. Both partners must <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-work-relationships\/\">work together to create healthy interactions within the relationship<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If both partners want to know how to have a healthy relationship, they should start with the following behaviours:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Have confidence in your partner and in yourself<\/li>\n<li>Practice self-love and learn how to be happy with yourself<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Spend time apart to give space to one another<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Show affection and physical intimacy<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Have open communication and be honest about your feelings<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Establish a sense of trust<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Be playful, lighthearted and smile whenever you can<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Be patient<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Don\u2019t be selfish and learn how to see things from the other person\u2019s perspective<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Practice forgiveness<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Deal and resolve arguments amicably<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Listen to your partner<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Support and value your partner<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Respect one another and have boundaries<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Make mutual choices and decisions<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Treat your partner as an equal<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Show compassion<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Let your partner have their own independence<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400; text-align: left;\" aria-level=\"1\">Take your relationship at a comfortable pace<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2520 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship.png\" alt=\"Happy couple spending quality time and eating takeaway together\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"howtogetoutofatoxicrelationship\"><b>How to get out of a toxic relationship<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A toxic relationship can provoke a lot of suffering, and in most cases, people in this kind of relationship can feel more alone than if they were single.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can also damage future relationships, as the person can bring their emotional and psychological baggage from negative past experiences on to a new relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>Signs of a toxic relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To better identify the signs of a toxic relationship, it\u2019s important to pay attention to the following signals:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Changes in the way you are as a person<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner only point issues and criticise your family and friends<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are signs of control of your life (what you do, where you go etc.)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have more sad moments than happy ones<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your ideas and values are too different and there is nothing in common<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dishonesty<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ignoring boundaries and making informed decisions alone<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being pressured into sexual activity\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making you feel isolated by restricting your contact with others<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of trust and privacy invasion<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxic communication when issues arise\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of support<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feelings of jealousy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bad financial behaviours\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2521 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-toxic-relationship.png\" alt=\"Couple having a heated argument at home\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-toxic-relationship.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-toxic-relationship-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-toxic-relationship-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-toxic-relationship-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/signs-of-a-toxic-relationship-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3><b>Ending a toxic relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you are able to identify that your relationship is toxic, you should prepare yourself to leave.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless of the type of relationship you have, it is always hard to effectively break up. That\u2019s why it is important to not isolate yourself from supportive networks such as family and friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk about your relationship issues with people you trust or even a professional, like a therapist, as it will help you to better understand and evaluate your situation and help you decide the right time to end the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finally, always think and prioritise your wellbeing and don\u2019t be afraid of putting an end to a toxic relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"buildingahealthyrelationship\"><b>Building a healthy relationship<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is common to have fear of being alone, which encourages people to try harder to keep some relationships.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, if it is not a healthy relationship or a rather toxic one, you can feel even more isolated while putting your emotional and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-work-and-mental-health-support\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mental health<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> at risk.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first step for you to be in a healthy relationship is to find happiness within yourself first. This will make it easier to find the right partner and have a healthy and happy relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>While no relationship is perfect, it&#8217;s fair to say that we all desire a healthy one. But many of us find ourselves in relationships that are dissatisfying or detrimental to our emotional and mental wellbeing. What is a healthy relationship? 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