{"id":3346,"date":"2022-06-22T16:35:04","date_gmt":"2022-06-22T15:35:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/?p=3346"},"modified":"2023-03-23T18:03:39","modified_gmt":"2023-03-23T18:03:39","slug":"how-to-masturbate-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-masturbate-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"How to masturbate? The art of self-pleasure for women"},"content":{"rendered":"

They say there are two types of women in the world – those who masturbate, and those who lie – and while that\u2019s a harsh and untrue depiction of womankind, it does raise a question about just how many women practice <\/span>self-satisfaction<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

What is masturbation?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Masturbation is the manual stimulation of your genitals using your hand, although it can involve <\/span>sex toys<\/span><\/a>, too. Often, but not always resulting in <\/span>orgasm<\/span><\/a>, masturbation not only feels great, but it has a number of benefits, too, including health, happiness, and better sex with a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Do women masturbate?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Because <\/span>masturbation<\/span><\/a> is not something we often talk about, some people – both men and women – can feel like it has a stigma attached, and either don\u2019t do it at all or attach a massive amount of guilt to it and feel like they\u2019re doing something wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

While it\u2019s probably not something you\u2019d want to discuss at dinner with the in-laws, the more we talk about it as the natural experience it is, the less guilt will be associated with it and the easier it will be to see it as perfectly normal.<\/span><\/p>\n

What are the benefits of masturbation?<\/b><\/h2>\n

There are so many benefits to masturbation that it should be prescribed on the NHS.<\/span><\/p>\n

Self-awareness<\/span><\/h3>\n

Masturbation, like any kind of sexual activity, is a holistic activity; that is, it involves the whole body and mind. By exploring your own body, you will gain a new perspective on yourself, and get to know the parts of you (physically and mentally) that you\u2019ve maybe never known before.<\/span><\/p>\n

Knowing what works<\/span><\/h3>\n

When you take the time to pleasure yourself, you will gain an in-depth knowledge of what turns you on and what doesn\u2019t. You\u2019ll learn whether you like clitoral stimulation with a light touch or with more pressure, if you prefer it slow or fast \u2013 or a mixture of both \u2013 and whether you enjoy the other parts of your vulva being touched, such as the area between the vagina and anus (perineum).<\/span><\/p>\n

Sharing of knowledge<\/span><\/h3>\n

Knowing your own body intimately and what works for you is knowledge that can be passed on to your lover or lovers, leading to much better sex for you. If you don\u2019t know what you like, they won\u2019t have a clue either.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Relief from period cramps<\/span><\/h3>\n

Believe it or not, masturbation can be highly effective at reducing or even stopping<\/span> period cramps<\/span><\/a>. When we orgasm, two feel-good hormones are released \u2013 serotonin and dopamine \u2013 which can act as painkillers. In addition, when we climax there is a rush of blood to the uterus, which can also effectively relieve cramps.<\/span><\/p>\n

Calorie-burning<\/span><\/h3>\n

While a gentle session of self-love will only burn a low number of calories, indulging in a more vigorous session can, in fact, burn a<\/span>\u00a0substantial amount<\/span><\/a>. By drawing out the session using different techniques, positions, and toys, you can give yourself a mini workout that can help with getting rid of those excess calories.<\/span><\/p>\n

Better sleep<\/span><\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve ever experienced the sleepy afterglow of sex with a partner, you\u2019ll know the feeling of drifting off to sleep with a satisfied smile on your face. But according to<\/span> Dr Jeff Foster<\/span><\/a>, an author and GP, the mind doesn\u2019t know the difference between partnered sex and flying solo. <\/span>He says: <\/span>“Sexual activity, usually that which results in orgasm, causes a release of multiple hormones, including dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and prolactin.\u201d <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

These happy little hormones leave us feeling relaxed and sleepy and will help us drift off into a blissful sleep. He goes on to explain that sexual activity has a sedating effect \u2013 a deliberate move to allow us time to recover from the strenuous activity.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stress relief<\/span><\/h3>\n

Modern lives come with stress, and sometimes quite a lot of it. Masturbating means you have to be present, which pushes other thoughts from your mind. This, in turn, can help to lower stress and anxiety.<\/span><\/p>\n

It can increase your libido<\/span><\/h3>\n

If you find, as many women do for so many reasons, that your sex drive is diminishing, masturbating can actually amp this up again. Think of it this way; can you stop at just one square of chocolate?<\/span><\/p>\n

Pelvic floor strengthening<\/span><\/h3>\n

Finally, masturbating can help to strengthen the pelvic floor, which can be a massive boost to women\u2019s sexual health. Pregnancy, menopause, and weight gain can all play havoc with our muscles down there, and regular masturbation is like an exercise programme for those muscles, meaning not only a better sex life but also an improvement in things like urinary incontinence.<\/span><\/p>\n

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How much is too much?<\/b><\/h2>\n

There is no such thing as too much when it comes to <\/span>masturbation<\/span><\/a>, unless it interferes with your daily life. Some women do it once a week, others every day, and some even do it several times a day. There is no right or wrong answer to how often you should do it; it\u2019s your body.<\/span><\/p>\n

A study in the<\/span> Huffington Post<\/span><\/a> suggested that while men masturbate approximately 140 times a year \u2013 or 2.6 times every week \u2013 women partake much less, with an average of 53 times a year…that\u2019s just once a week. That means that globally, there\u2019s a 62% difference. However, in the UK the difference is even bigger, at around 66%.<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you masturbate on your period?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Absolutely. Contrary to common masturbation myths<\/a>, masturbating while on your <\/span>period<\/span> can help to relieve cramps, but the release of the orgasm hormones can also relieve headaches and other pains associated with menstruating. A woman\u2019s mood can also take a downturn at her time of the month, and masturbating can help to reverse that.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is even anecdotal evidence that periods can be shortened because the contracting of the uterus that happens during orgasm can help to expel more of the uterine lining in one go. And of course, the blood can act as a natural lubricant, giving a smoother feel to the act.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re worried about the mess, simply lay a towel down on your bed or wherever you are when the mood takes you, or alternatively do it in the shower.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to masturbate<\/b><\/h2>\n

We\u2019ve given you all the whys and wherefores about female masturbation, so now we\u2019ll move on to how you do it.<\/span><\/p>\n

The first thing to do is get to know your own body. A handheld mirror is best and can be angled so you can see everything. A lot of women have never seen their own vulva because, unlike men, their genitals are tucked away out of sight. Take some time to learn where everything is; the inner and outer lips, the anus, the perineum, and the holy grail\u2026 The clitoris.<\/span><\/p>\n

While all the parts are important, the clitoris has around 8,000 nerve endings in the tip alone (around twice the amount on a penis) so getting up close and personal will pay off handsomely.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Set the scene<\/span><\/h3>\n

Just because you\u2019re going solo doesn\u2019t mean you should make less of an effort. Treat the occasion as you would a date, light candles, dim the lighting, and take a bath or shower beforehand to relax and get you in the mood. Turn off your phone, lock the door, and head to the bed (or wherever you feel more comfortable).<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Explore<\/span><\/h3>\n

You wouldn\u2019t find it all that appealing to have a lover head straight for ground zero – i.e., the clitoris \u2013 so pay yourself the same attention and use your entire body. Take your time to touch your hair, stroke your neck, and run your hands down your shoulders. Feel your way across your breasts, play with your nipples<\/a>, and explore your stomach. Your thighs are a huge erogenous zone, so stroke the insides gently, and spend time just loving your legs. You could even use oil to add to the sensory pleasure and make it easier.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only will doing this add to the experience, but it will also show you the parts of your body that turn you on when touched; something that will benefit future lovemaking, both solo and with a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Positions, please<\/span><\/h3>\n

If you are new to masturbation, you will probably want to try the <\/span>missionary position<\/span><\/a>; that is, on your back with your legs spread. This often offers the easiest way to reach everything, and it is super comfortable so is great if you are nervous or feeling a little anxious.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lube isn\u2019t just for intercourse, and using it on your fingers will really enhance the experience, and prevent you from becoming sore. Then simply play. Stroke your lips, your anus, your thighs, and finally find the clitoris and begin slowly stroking. Only you will know how hard or soft you like it, and you can vary the speed and intensity to suit. Don\u2019t rush, there are no prizes for coming first.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you are comfortable with that method, try switching things up a bit. Many women like to use the side of the bed, a pillow, or even the arm of a chair to rub their clitoris instead of their fingers, and it can open up a whole new world of possibilities. Don\u2019t be afraid to experiment.<\/span><\/p>\n

Kneeling on all fours is another popular position; it\u2019s erotic and feels completely different to lying down. If you have a mirror, you can add a visual element<\/a> too, and watch yourself as you cum.<\/span><\/p>\n

Keeping your thighs together is another way to up the ante because everything will feel tighter and therefore different.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Methods<\/span><\/h3>\n

Masturbating is so much more than simply rubbing your clitoris until you climax. Try using your non-dominant hand to make a \u2018V\u2019 shape and place one finger on one side of your clit, and the other on the other side. By squeezing slightly, the clitoris will protrude and more nerve endings will be exposed. Then use your other hand to stroke it. If you are pretty coordinated, you can slide the \u2018V\u2019 hand up and down as you masturbate, which will stimulate the sides with one hand as you take care of the top with the other. It\u2019s best to use lube with this method as the clitoris will be even more sensitive.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Use the bath or shower<\/span><\/h3>\n

If the bedroom isn\u2019t doing it for you, head to the bathroom to get wet and wild. A shower head is a wonderful \u2018toy\u2019 to use as you can direct the stream of water exactly where you want it, and even have fun with different temperatures, although make sure it doesn\u2019t get too hot.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t have a shower, you can still masturbate in the bath. Use your hands as you would on dry land, or alternatively, you can position yourself under the tap with your legs up against the wall and allow the water to run directly onto your clit. The great thing about this method is that it\u2019s hands-free, so you can let the water do its thing without having to move a muscle.<\/span><\/p>\n

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6. Use toys<\/span><\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re new to masturbation, it\u2019s best to let your fingers do the walking, as it\u2019s the only way to really get to know your own body. But once you have mastered the art, a whole world opens up. You can use dildos, vibrators, or clitoral stimulators, or add in some anal fun by using a vibe around the anus.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can also use whatever is to hand; an electric toothbrush can be a great way to get the clitoris going, and it also adds a little of the \u2018forbidden\u2019 to it. Tying a scarf into knots and pulling it backwards and forwards between your legs can also feel great.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t rush<\/span><\/h3>\n

While an orgasm is awesome, enjoy the journey as well as the destination. Just like with sex, masturbation might not always end in a climax, and that\u2019s okay. Taking time to love your body through self-stimulation is always worth it, whether or not you cum, so don\u2019t focus on the end game, well, not all the time, anyway.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now you know how to masturbate<\/strong><\/h2>\n

There is no end to the benefits that masturbation can bring. Exploring your own body is the absolute best way to discover what you like and what you don\u2019t, and besides all the health benefits like better sleep and relief from period pains, it will enhance your sex life with a partner as you can show them what you like and how to do it.<\/span><\/p>\n

With the majority of women being unable to climax through penetrative sex alone, learning how to masturbate will help you to achieve orgasms that you might never have experienced without clitoral stimulation. It\u2019s one of the best ways to practice self-care and improve your sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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