{"id":3442,"date":"2022-07-04T17:41:03","date_gmt":"2022-07-04T16:41:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/?p=3442"},"modified":"2023-06-23T13:09:08","modified_gmt":"2023-06-23T12:09:08","slug":"escort-client-red-flags","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/escort-client-red-flags\/","title":{"rendered":"11 client red flags to watch out for to keep yourself safe"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Meeting a new client can be nerve-wracking, and it&#8217;s essential to be aware of your clients and their behaviours.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You want to stay safe and protect yourself from any dangerous or risky situations.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because we value <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/escort\/gb\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">escorts&#8217;<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> safety, here are 11 red flags to watch out for before and when meeting a new client. Keep these in mind to be prepared and have a safe experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><strong>The importance of screening clients<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being an escort is a unique and special profession. It can allow you to meet interesting, successful and often high-profile clients.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it is also important to remember that not all clients are appropriate for this line of work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is why, as an escort, it&#8217;s instrumental to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-escorts-can-screen-clients\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">always screen your clients<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> carefully before meeting them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This screening process helps to ensure that you only meet respectful, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/hiring-escort-tips\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">well-mannered clients<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> who understand the boundaries of this temporary relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It also helps to protect you from any inappropriate or dangerous behaviour. In short, screening clients is an essential part of being an escort and helps to create a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-be-safe-as-a-sex-worker\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">safe and enjoyable experience<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for both parties.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That being said, it can be tricky if you don&#8217;t know what to watch out for before <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-prepare-to-meet-a-client\/\">meeting future clients<\/a>. Read on for all the red flags you should know before taking them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3445\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-2.png\" alt=\"sex worker posing in front of a web camera\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-2.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-2-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-2-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-2-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-2-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><strong>11 client red flags not to ignore<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/online\/gb\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">working in the adult industry<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you know that your client list can make or break your business. After all, happy clients lead to referrals, repeat business, and can help you attract even more customers.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, difficult clients can cost you time and money and ultimately damage your reputation. For these reasons, it&#8217;s important to be on the lookout for red flags that may indicate a client is trouble.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. The client is constantly changing his mind<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As an escort, one of the most important things you can do is trust your gut. One red flag that should always send a warning signal is when a client constantly changes his mind. This could be about anything from what services they want, to how much they&#8217;re willing to pay.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s an indication that they&#8217;re not sure about what they want, which can often lead to them being dissatisfied with the results. In other words, it&#8217;s just not worth your time or energy to deal with someone who can&#8217;t make up their mind. Trust your instincts and move on to someone who actually knows what they want.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Cut the conversation short with nosy customers<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may sometimes be subjected to nosy questions from customers. &#8220;How long have you been doing this?&#8221;, &#8220;Are you single?&#8221; or &#8220;Do you have many clients?&#8221; While we understand that some people are simply curious, we also know these questions can be a red flag for escorts.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only are they invasive and personal, but they can also lead to unpleasant situations. If customers know too much about you, they may try to negotiate for additional services or even harass you in extreme scenarios.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For this reason, you will always want to cut the conversation short with nosy customers. Doing so sends the message that their questions are not welcome and that they&#8217;re only there for a couple of hours at most.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This may not always be the most diplomatic approach, but it is the best way to protect yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. The client is excessively demanding or unrealistic in his expectations<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another of the biggest red flags is when a client is excessively demanding or unrealistic in his expectations. This is a clear sign that he is not respecting your boundaries or considering your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/rebecca-dakin-on-sex-work-safety\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">safety and wellbeing<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In case this happens before the meeting, tell him directly that he should respect your limits. Otherwise, he should find another escort. On the other hand, if the man was calm and reasonable before meeting but becomes demanding when meeting up, and repeatedly attempts to persuade you into trying things you have not advertised like <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/guide-to-french-kissing\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">French kissing<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it&#8217;s essential to trust your instincts and get out of there quickly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With so many other clients out there, there&#8217;s no reason to put up with this kind of behaviour. Stay safe and move on to someone who will appreciate and respect you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Avoid uncommunicative or unresponsive customers<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While this point doesn&#8217;t initially mean that you&#8217;re in danger, it&#8217;s something to pay attention to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a client doesn\u2019t get back to you, this could be because they&#8217;re not actually interested in hiring you, or it could be because they&#8217;re trying to hide something. Either way, it&#8217;s not worth your time or energy to pursue someone who isn&#8217;t bothering to respond to you or answers hours later.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In other words, save yourself the hassle and avoid unresponsive customers altogether; instead, focus on those who really want to meet up and communicate regularly.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. The same goes for rude or disrespectful clients<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/what-is-an-escort-and-the-different-types\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being an escort<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a delicate job. You need to be professional at all times while still providing a sensual and personal experience.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That said, you should watch out for specific customers and you shouldn&#8217;t waste your time on someone who is rude or disrespectful to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These are a major turnoff and can often result in a less than ideal experience. If a customer is rude or doesn&#8217;t respect you, it&#8217;s best to steer clear. These types of customers often create an uncomfortable or even dangerous situation for you, making you feel uneasy and not comfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3447\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-4.png\" alt=\"man kissing a woman's hand in white robes on a hotel bed\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-4.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-4-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-4-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-4-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-4-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6. Clients rushing you to meet or pressuring you to meet at a certain time<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may sound normal at first, but clients who pressure you to meet can sometimes be considered a warning sign.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First of all, this behaviour can indicate someone who is not respectful of your time or trying to rush the encounter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In addition, if they don&#8217;t have enough time to meet when you&#8217;re free, it could well be that they don&#8217;t have the time to meet at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All in all, if a client is rushing you, it is best to politely decline and find someone who is more interested in taking their time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, by taking the time to vet potential clients; you can help ensure that you only spend your time with those who respect your boundaries and appreciate your company.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7. A clingy or demanding man can be terrible for your business<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For some women, there&#8217;s nothing worse than a clingy, demanding man &#8211; especially when he&#8217;s paying for your time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As an independent escort, not only do they want your undivided attention, but they also expect you to cater to their every whim and fancy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s exhausting, both physically and emotionally, it&#8217;s often not worth the money, and it&#8217;s much better to stick with men who know how to treat a lady.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8. Persistent clients<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, one downside of being an escort is dealing with persistent men who won&#8217;t take no for an answer. While some men can be respectful and understanding, others will try to haggle or even force their way into your services.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only is this extremely frustrating, but it can also be bad for business. First, it takes up valuable time that you could spend with other clients. Secondly, it might make you feel unsafe and uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In short, persistent men can be terrible for your business and should not be welcome in your world.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9. Clients that want to become &#8220;regular&#8221;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming a &#8220;regular&#8221; usually means you get some kind of benefit for your loyalty. When it comes to independent sex work, however, regulars can be a big no. Often, clients who want to become regulars are simply looking for a discount; they want to pay less for the same service.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While there&#8217;s nothing wrong with wanting to save money, this type of arrangement is not sustainable for most escorts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a client hints that they want to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-get-regular-escort-client\/\">become a regular<\/a>, but only if they receive a discount, it&#8217;s best to politely decline as it may hurt your business in the long run.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10. Those who want to take you out<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless of if you&#8217;re an experienced escort or new in the business, chances are you&#8217;ve had a client or two that tried to take you out on a date. While it might seem like a harmless request, it&#8217;s actually a huge warning sign.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First of all, it&#8217;s unprofessional. Your clients are paying for your time and companionship, not for your romantic attention. Secondly, it can be dangerous. Spending time with a client outside of an established setting could put you at risk.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finally, it&#8217;s a potential waste of time. You could be using that time to meet other clients or enjoy your personal life. If you&#8217;re ever tempted to say yes to a date, think twice and consider the pros and cons.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">11. Time wasters<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&#8217;re an escort, chances are you&#8217;ve come across your fair share of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-identify-a-timewaster\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">time wasters<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You know the type &#8211; they contact you and make all sorts of promises, but when setting up a meeting, they go radio silent.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or, they show up to your appointment and then barely say a word. In either case, it&#8217;s best just to move on.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&#8217;s no point in wasting your time on someone who isn&#8217;t actually interested. After all, communication is critical in any relationship &#8211; even a sexual one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3446\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-3.png\" alt=\"woman getting ready for sex in bedroom\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-3.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-3-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-3-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-3-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/escort-client-red-flags-3-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Conclusion<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it is essential to be aware of the red flags and that your safety always comes first, it is also crucial that you don&#8217;t let them scare you away from working with clients altogether. Just use your best judgement and if something feels off before meeting, trust your gut.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Last but certainly not least, make sure to check out platforms such as <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/clienteye-and-vivastreet-partnership\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ClientEye<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/covid-19-resources-for-sex-workers\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">NUM<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, which are made for sex workers to warn others of potentially dangerous clients.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In conclusion, these are all the signs you shouldn&#8217;t avoid.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did any of those happen to you? How did you react, and what was the result? Let us know in the comment section below.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Meeting a new client can be nerve-wracking, and it&#8217;s essential to be aware of your clients and their behaviours.\u00a0 You want to stay safe and protect yourself from any dangerous or risky situations.\u00a0 Because we value escorts&#8217; safety, here are 11 red flags to watch out for before and when meeting a new client. 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