{"id":3975,"date":"2022-12-20T17:09:21","date_gmt":"2022-12-20T17:09:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/?p=3975"},"modified":"2023-03-23T17:51:37","modified_gmt":"2023-03-23T17:51:37","slug":"how-to-break-dry-spell","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-break-dry-spell\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting back in the game: How to have sex after a long dry spell"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>No one wants to go through one, and no one likes admitting that they\u2019re going through it, but a dry spell is something that can happen to anyone at any time. And the thing is, rebooting your sex life is far from easy.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you\u2019ve been single for a while or just haven\u2019t been connecting with your partner, dry spells without sex can get in the way of our lives. On top of that, if you\u2019ve been in a fairly long dry spell, then getting back into the game can be much harder.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"#whatisadryspell?\">What is a dry spell?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#whymaysomeonebeexperiencingadryspell?\">Why may someone be experiencing a dry spell?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#howtobreakadryspellinarelationship\">How to break a dry spell in a relationship<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#howtobreakadryspellwhensingle\">How to break a dry spell when single<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#dryspellsandescorts\">Dry spells and escorts<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>But in this article, we\u2019re here to help. Below, we\u2019ll explain what dry spells are, the reasons people might be experiencing a dry spell and the different ways you can break a dry spell.<\/p>\n<p><em>Read on to learn more.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"whatisadryspell?\"><strong>What is a dry spell?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Before anything, we need to discuss what a dry spell is. That way, it will be easier to explain how to get out of one. The dictionary explains that dry spells are long stretches of time without rain, but that isn\u2019t the dry spell we\u2019re talking about. In this context, a dry spell refers to a stretch of time wherein a person isn\u2019t having sex.<\/p>\n<p>While the term is usually used to describe when women haven\u2019t had sex for a while, it\u2019s now used for men, women, and non-binary people. Generally, it\u2019s considered a dry spell when you want to have sex but aren\u2019t getting it.<\/p>\n<p>And the thing is, this can happen when you\u2019re single and when you\u2019re in a relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Dry spells can get in the way of life. To start, the lack of intimacy when going through a dry spell can take a toll on the mind. People going through extended dry spells may feel a yearning for intimacy, feel self-conscious, and feel mentally exhausted.<\/p>\n<p>Since a dry spell can weigh heavily on a person, it\u2019s important to find ways to get out of one. But before we get into that, let\u2019s first explain some of the reasons you might be experiencing a dry spell in the first place.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"whymaysomeonebeexperiencingadryspell?\"><strong>Why may someone be experiencing a dry spell?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The most common reason people are in a dry spell is that they\u2019re single and not going out to meet people. When you\u2019re single, you need to make more of an effort if you want to have sex. When you\u2019re in a relationship, it\u2019s easier to have sex as you have a partner whom you can have regular sex with.<\/p>\n<p>If you just got out of a long-term relationship, finding new people to connect with can be hard, so we don\u2019t blame you if it\u2019s been a while since you\u2019ve had sex. And while it can be hard, understand that dry spells are a normal part of life that most people will end up experiencing.<\/p>\n<p>That said, being single isn\u2019t the only reason a person may experience a dry spell. In fact, dry spells are just about as common for people in relationships as for single people.<\/p>\n<p>For example, after some time, you and your partner may not be able to connect with each other intimately. This could be due to the state of your relationship, a general lack of intimacy, your schedules, and more.<\/p>\n<p>One common reason couples go through dry spells is because of busy schedules. If both of you are busy with work, taking care of the kids, and other tasks, it might be hard to find the time to have sex.<\/p>\n<p>If you and your partner are going through a dry spell, remember not to panic. It\u2019s very normal for the frequency of sex in a relationship to diminish over time. However, the intimacy and spark won\u2019t instantly come back without effort. If you want to break a dry spell in a relationship, both parties need to make an effort to reconnect and get intimate with each other.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3978\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-1.png\" alt=\"man holding a phone, looking at a woman's profile photo on a dating app and pressing red heart like button\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-1.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-1-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-1-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-1-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-1-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"howtobreakadryspellinarelationship\"><strong>How to break a dry spell in a relationship?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The best way to break a dry spell when you\u2019re in a relationship is to get to the root of the problem. You can\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-work-relationships\/\">work on your relationship and reignite the intimacy between you and your partner until you determine why you haven\u2019t been having sex<\/a> in the first place. And to do this, you will need to have an open and honest conversation with your partner.<\/p>\n<p>From there, it will be easier to determine what the two of you need to do to break the dry spell. Additionally, make sure not to rush back into things. If you and your partner aren\u2019t connecting in the bedroom, then rushing will not help you at all.<\/p>\n<p>We recommend really taking your time and easing yourselves back into it. This could be in the form of longer foreplay, more conversations about why you aren\u2019t having sex, and more.<\/p>\n<p>Remember, snapping your dry spell is about quality and not quantity, so there\u2019s nothing wrong with going slow.<\/p>\n<p>Other things you can do to snap a dry spell in a relationship is to try out <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/role-play-sex-tips\/\">roleplay<\/a> or other new sex acts. That way, you can bring back some of the fun and excitement that naturally diminishes in the bedroom over time.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"howtobreakadryspellwhensingle\"><strong>How to break a dry spell when single?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Breaking a dry spell when you\u2019re single is very similar to doing so when in a relationship. The process always starts with figuring out the reason you\u2019re experiencing a dry spell in the first place. This could be because you aren\u2019t meeting new people, you aren\u2019t connecting with the people you meet, and more.<\/p>\n<p>A great tip we can give single people looking to break a dry spell is to stop using the term \u201cdry spell\u201d. It\u2019s very important to accept the fact that a person\u2019s sex life will go through ups and downs. And when you take out the term dry spell from your vocabulary, it\u2019s much easier to accept this fact.<\/p>\n<p>Just like with relationships, it\u2019s important to take your time when breaking a dry spell when you\u2019re single. Remember, there\u2019s nothing wrong with taking a break from sex for a while. And if you don\u2019t feel the immediate need to break your dry spell, then you don\u2019t need to.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3976\" src=\"https:\/\/vivastreetuk.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-2.png\" alt=\"lesbian african american couple holding hands while resting on bed\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-2.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-2-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-2-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-2-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/how-to-break-dry-spell-2-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"dryspellsandescorts\"><strong>Dry spells and escorts<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>If you\u2019re really looking to break your dry spell, contacting a sex worker or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/escort\/gb\">escort<\/a> may be a great option. When you break your dry spell with an escort, there\u2019s less pressure, and you get to learn a great deal about the way you have sex. While this might not be the route for everyone, there\u2019s nothing wrong with contacting an escort to look for ways that you can break your dry spell. In fact, according to our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/loneliness-sex-work\/\">latest findings<\/a>, hiring an escort has helped people with loneliness and made them more confident.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>Dry spells can get in the way of our regular lives, but they are also very natural and nothing to worry about. Regardless of who you are, how you identify, and where you live, dry spells will be a part of life. And while you don\u2019t need to break dry spells immediately, we made sure to discuss the best ways to get out of your dry spell above.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>No one wants to go through one, and no one likes admitting that they\u2019re going through it, but a dry spell is something that can happen to anyone at any time. And the thing is, rebooting your sex life is far from easy. 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