{"id":4296,"date":"2023-04-18T13:19:50","date_gmt":"2023-04-18T12:19:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/?p=4296"},"modified":"2023-04-18T13:19:50","modified_gmt":"2023-04-18T12:19:50","slug":"first-time-working-as-an-escort","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/first-time-working-as-an-escort\/","title":{"rendered":"What to expect during your first time working as an escort"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first day at any job can be nerve-racking. But going in with the lowdown on what to expect and what to do can reduce anxiety and make the overall experience much more fulfilling.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019ve already decided to work as an escort but haven\u2019t met any clients yet, you might be feeling a little nervous about your first gig. This is completely normal. However, you don\u2019t have to turn up without an idea of what to expect. <\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"#whatisescortwork?\">What is escort work?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#thingstoconsider\">Essential things to consider before becoming an escort<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#howtoprepare\">How to mentally and emotionally prepare for escort work<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#safetymeasures\">Safety measures all escorts should know<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#positiveexperienceforclients\">Ensuring clients have a positive experience<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#maintainingapositiveattitude\">How to maintain a positive attitude as an escort<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#developingauniquebrand\">Why you should develop a unique brand as an escort<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#buildingasupportsystem\">Building an escort support system<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#thetakeaway\">The takeaway<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today, we\u2019re focusing on what to expect on your first job and we\u2019ve gathered the top tips and tricks to stay safe and impress your client while you\u2019re there.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep reading to find out more.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"whatisescortwork?\"><strong>What is escort work?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Escort work can be defined as providing companionship to clients for a set fee or hourly price.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The actual role of an escort can differ depending on bookings, but it typically covers spending time with clients (such as attending restaurants or getting coffee) or offering personal services (such as intimate cuddling or sexual services).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How is escort work different from sex work?<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Though escort work can cover sexual services, it doesn\u2019t strictly mean sex work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, some escorts accompany clients to events or keep them company while at dinners. Some escorts even provide cuddling sessions, giving non-sexual physical touch to clients who want a more intimate connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Escort services can tip into sex work, where an escort will provide companionship and sexual services. Not all escorts provide this and don\u2019t have to. However, it\u2019s a common inclusion for many escorts.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ensure you\u2019re clear about the services on offer before you meet up with your client. This can avoid confusion or frustration during your session.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"thingstoconsider\"><strong>Essential things to consider before becoming an escort<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like any job, you should consider the pros and cons before booking your first escort job. <em><strong>These are the top points you should think about if you\u2019re interested in becoming an escort:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Many clients will expect sexual services. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if you\u2019re offering companionship, you might encounter clients that try to push your boundaries.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Legal considerations.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Escorting isn\u2019t legal everywhere. Before you start you should investigate your local laws and rules in order to best protect yourself.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-work-and-mental-health-support\/\"><b>Mental and emotional <\/b><\/a><b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-work-and-mental-health-support\/\">well-being<\/a>. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Working closely with others can be mentally taxing, so you\u2019ll need to ensure you have strong mental health self-care practices before starting.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/financial-management-for-sex-workers\/\"><b>Financial considerations<\/b><\/a><b>.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> What will your rates be? Do you have a budget you need to account for?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Escorting isn\u2019t only about client meetings.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A lot of your time will be spent marketing yourself online, on social media, and through networking.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Your health. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As an escort, you\u2019ll also need to dedicate time to getting regular STI checks and educating clients on safe sex.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-4298\" src=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-2.png\" alt=\"close up portrait of a young asian woman with bath towel on head doing her make up while leaning on a table and looking at the mirror\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-2.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-2-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-2-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-2-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-2-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"howtoprepare\"><strong>How to mentally and emotionally prepare for escort work<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When preparing for your first day as an escort, don\u2019t skip mental and emotional preparations. This job can take a toll on you physically and mentally, so preparing well is essential to your health and success in the profession.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/escort-sex-education\/\">Get educated<\/a> <\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>on the benefits, risks, and legalities of escorting.<\/strong> This will help you understand the working climate.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-work-client-boundaries\/\">Make your personal boundaries clear<\/a>.<\/strong> Boundaries protect you and the client from harm, so don\u2019t overlook them.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><strong>Outline your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/self-care-for-sex-workers\/\">self-care and coping strategies<\/a>.<\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Having relaxation techniques can help you after a stressful day.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Connect with a support system.<\/strong> Whether you reach out to trustworthy friends or other escorts, chatting with overs can help you prepare emotionally for the job.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Learn how to be assertive.<\/strong> Clients might try to push your boundaries &#8211; knowing how to stay strong will help you in the future.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Be organised.<\/strong> Admin might not seem important, but keeping your invoices and appointments in order will save you from future stress.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Top tips for setting boundaries and expectations with clients<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boundaries are vital to escorting. These rules keep you protected, and they\u2019re also helpful when managing client expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To set clear boundaries, you need to be transparent from the get-go. For example, communicate openly about what you will and won\u2019t do from the start of client interactions. This way, you can see if your values align and no one wastes their time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be consistent with your boundaries. If you\u2019re firm in your expectations, clients will be less likely to push you or ask for more. This creates mutual respect and a better professional relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use direct language. Asserting boundaries feels awkward, especially when you\u2019re doing it for the first time. However, clear and direct language is the best way to go. That\u2019s right \u2014 no euphemisms allowed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be ready for negotiations. Clients might try to negotiate, so set a comfort zone which you will and won\u2019t pass. If their requests leave this zone, be ready to tell them no.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"safetymeasures\"><strong>Safety measures all escorts should know<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing relevant <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/theredproject.co.uk\/safety-tips\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">safety measures <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is crucial, so don\u2019t start your first day without them. <em><strong>Here are the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/idevasw-sex-work-safety-tips\/\">top safety tips<\/a> all escorts should know:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trust your instincts<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buy a personal alarm<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Opt to first meet in places with other people or CCTV<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have a \u201csafety plan\u201d ready (i.e. call a trusted friend)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell your loved ones when you have an appointment<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 id=\"positiveexperienceforclients\"><strong>Ensuring clients have a positive experience<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pleasing your client and getting good reviews is central to life as an escort. While you want to have a good time, you also need to think about their feelings, too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be upfront and ask about their desires. This way, you can work towards fulfilling their fantasies and ensuring they have a memorable experience.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Escorts should also regularly check in with clients. Frequent communication helps you understand whether they\u2019re enjoying the experience, and it\u2019ll also open up space for them to tell you about their wants and needs.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/a-z-sexual-consent-in-sex-work\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Always check for consent<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both parties should provide enthusiastic consent, and without this, no sexual or intimate acts should take place.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"maintainingapositiveattitude\"><strong>How to maintain a positive attitude as an escort<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Staying positive at work is a challenge in all industries, including for escorts and sex workers. It can be especially tough to stay positive as an escort due to negative stigma and stereotypes. <strong><em>However, there are some tips to ensure you have a fulfilling career:<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on the benefits of your job, such as the ability to set your own schedule.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use your boundaries to remove unwanted clients. If you don\u2019t like them, you don\u2019t have to see them! Bye-bye, bad clients.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Commit to a self-care routine. Looking after yourself is vital in all jobs, so don\u2019t neglect your physical and emotional needs.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Set future goals to work towards.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Connect with other escorts and bond over your shared profession.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 id=\"developingauniquebrand\"><strong>Why you should develop a unique brand as an escort<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not many people realise it, but<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-work-business-tips\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">business marketing<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and personal branding is a large aspect of working as an escort.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Creating a personal brand that outlines your niche, services, and price points will help you attract your ideal clients to you. Many escorts use <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/best-social-media-apps-for-your-escort-brand\/\">websites and social media<\/a> accounts to build trust and establish a reputation with clients, thus allowing them to make bookings and find repeat clients.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can even generate a logo, fake name, and services list to provide an ultra-professional experience. Remember, the client interaction starts before you meet in real life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-4299\" src=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-1.png\" alt=\"young girl enjoying an ideal day sitting in the window-sill wearing casual denim jeans and loose light-blue blouse, crossing legs and looking through the window\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-1.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-1-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-1-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-1-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/first-time-working-as-an-escort-1-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"buildingasupportsystem\"><strong>Building an escort support system<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A support system is a network of trustworthy people or other escorts that can offer practical advice and emotional support.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Meeting other escorts is easy thanks to the internet. Forums and communities allow easy access to like-minded people where you can discuss work, issues, and shared interests. A popular place to chat with other escorts and sex workers is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/SexWorkers\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">r\/SexWorkers<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alternatively, you can also build a local community for in-person connections. Charities or non-profit organisations in your area are great resources for finding close-by escorts. You could also connect with local escorts online and see if they\u2019d want to meet for an in-person support group. Don\u2019t be too pushy, though. Respect other escorts\u2019 boundaries.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"thetakeaway\"><strong>The takeaway<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you\u2019re getting ready for your first meeting or looking for some extra tips on how to stay safe as an escort, we hope this blog has refreshed your toolbox with some new information. Always remember to use consent and regularly check in with your client to ensure a fulfilling service and a safe experience for you.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The first day at any job can be nerve-racking. But going in with the lowdown on what to expect and what to do can reduce anxiety and make the overall experience much more fulfilling.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve already decided to work as an escort but haven\u2019t met any clients yet, you might be feeling a little [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4300,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"CBBTypography":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[217,221],"tags":[],"yst_prominent_words":[],"class_list":["post-4296","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-for-sex-workers","category-sex-work-101"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4296","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4296"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4296\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4300"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4296"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4296"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4296"},{"taxonomy":"yst_prominent_words","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/yst_prominent_words?post=4296"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}