{"id":4913,"date":"2024-01-22T14:12:24","date_gmt":"2024-01-22T14:12:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/?p=4913"},"modified":"2024-02-07T14:30:35","modified_gmt":"2024-02-07T14:30:35","slug":"collar-kink","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/collar-kink\/","title":{"rendered":"Is wearing a collar a kink or a fashion statement?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever fantasised about wearing a collar while playing with your partner? Collars are a hot accessory that can help you dip your toes into the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-be-a-dominant-in-bdsm\/\">BDSM world<\/a> and allow you to show your complete submission to your partner.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"#canyouhaveacollarkink?\">Can you have a collar kink?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#collarsandbdsm\">How are collars related to BDSM?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#typesofbdsmcollars\">Different types of BDSM collars<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#whichcollarissuitableforyou?\">How do you know which collar is suitable for you?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#whenshouldyouwearacollar?\">When should you wear a collar?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#wherecanyoubuyacollar?\">Where can you buy BDSM collars?<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#thetakeaway\">The takeaway<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Find out everything you need to know about these kinky necklaces below.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"canyouhaveacollarkink?\"><strong>Can you have a collar kink?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Ever wondered whether a collar is a sexual kink? Well, you\u2019re right! Alongside being an excellent accessory, collars are a turn-on and kink. They can also indicate <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/total-power-exchange-tpe\/\">power dynamics<\/a> within the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/bdsm-guide-for-bondage-beginners\/\">BDSM community<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Some people wear them to spice up <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/what-is-financial-domination\/\">kinky sex,<\/a> and others wear them daily to show the world their commitment to their dominance. There\u2019s no one right way to play with collars, but they\u2019re a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/uk-top-sexual-fetishes-top-kinks-explained\/\">popular kink<\/a> worldwide.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve noticed that your attention is drawn to collars, experimenting with this accessory could be for you \u2014 and we\u2019re here to help you understand what they represent.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can collars be fashion statements?<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Though collars are usually associated with the BDSM community and kinks, they can be worn as fashion statements. After all, collars can perfect an alternative look, and you can buy them in all colours and materials these days. Many choker necklaces also look like collars. So, you can get super creative with your style.<\/p>\n<p>However, it\u2019s vital to note that wearing a collar might make people ask questions about whether <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/talking-about-kink-fetish\/\">you\u2019re into kink<\/a> or the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/erotic-spanking-for-bdsm-beginners\/\">BDSM scene<\/a>. For many collar wearers, these judgements are cool. But it might make others uncomfortable.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"\u201dcollarsandbdsm&quot;\"><strong>How are collars related to BDSM?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>In <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/what-is-bdsm-aftercare\/\">BDSM,<\/a> collars can represent power dynamics between a dominant and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/exploring-submissive-sex\/\">submissive partner<\/a>. The submissive usually wears them to show their commitment and submission to the dominant. This is usually only in the bedroom, but a small subset of submissives wear their collar every day in non-sexual situations.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The meaning behind BDSM collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Collars are not always about possession. However, they can be for some couples. Wearing a collar generally shows a submissive\u2019s dedication and trust for their dominant. In some ways, they\u2019re similar to wedding rings. The collar shows a mutual agreement that both partners have consented to. It\u2019s more of an agreement than ownership.<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-4915\" src=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-2.png\" alt=\"bdsm toys including collars and butt plugs laid out on a satin cover\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-2.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-2-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-2-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-2-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-2-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"typesofbdsmcollars\"><strong>Different types of BDSM collars<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Collars go around your neck, and the traditional type is black and made from leather. But as designers get more creative, many different styles are popping up. <strong><em>Here are the main types to know:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Standard collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Standard collars are the type that usually pops into your mind when you think about collars. These are a few centimetres thick, often black, and might have a few metal studs. As we mentioned, they can be made from leather, but other materials include synthetic fabrics or PVC.<\/p>\n<p>While black is the most popular, you can also buy these in bright colours, pastel hues, and transparent vinyl materials.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dog collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Dog collars are very similar to standard collars, but the key difference is that they have a metal D-ring at the front, which allows you to attach a leash. Dominants can clip a leash in and use it to control the submissive. This type of collar is popular within BDSM and pup play.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Metal collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Metal collars are also available, as some submissives prefer the feel of cool metal against their skin. These collars tend to be made from large links rather than an inflexible chunk of metal. You can find many leather-metal combination collars, perfect if you want the best of both worlds or aren\u2019t ready for a 100% metal collar.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fabric collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Collars don\u2019t always have to be tough and uniform. Fabric collars have more style and pattern choices, allowing you to mix your personal style into the statement. Top materials include lace, velvet, and embroidered fabrics.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Locking collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>If you want to show that you trust your partner, a locking collar could be for you. This type of collar fastens with a lock, and your dominant keeps the key. Of course, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/a-z-sexual-consent-in-sex-work\/\">enthusiastic consent<\/a> must be given for these collars.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Discreet collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Sometimes, a submissive might embrace a traditional collar at home but swap it for a discreet collar for everyday wear. Discreet collars look like ordinary necklaces but have a deeper meaning to the wearer. While they don\u2019t have to look a certain way, most discreet collars are made from silver metal and feature a circular ring (O-ring) in the middle.<\/p>\n<p>Discreet collars are also known as day collars. So, note that down if you\u2019re about to go shopping!<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wrist, ankle &amp; waist collars<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>The last type of collar on our list differs slightly from the options above. Neck collars are the most popular option for BDSM play. But you can spice it up with added wrist, ankle, and waist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/best-bdsm-sex-toys\/\">restraints<\/a>. These often look similar to a neck collar but are specially designed for other body parts.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"whichcollarissuitableforyou?\"><strong>How do you know which collar is suitable for you?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>If you\u2019re drawn to collars but don\u2019t know where to start, looking at the endless collar options can be overwhelming. The best way to find the collar for you is through experimentation and research.<\/p>\n<p>Take time to look at all the options, and order some affordable options to try them on. Wearing a collar is a tactile experience &#8211; the feel of the material matters a lot. You might like the idea of a metal collar, but wearing it might not be super comfortable. Likewise, a fabric collar might work for you if you want a unique design or feminine edge.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-4916\" src=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-1.png\" alt=\"bdsm toys including collars and butt plugs laid out on a satin cover\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-1.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-1-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-1-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-1-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/collar-kink-1-600x338.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"whenshouldyouwearacollar?\"><strong>When should you wear a collar?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>There are lots of different times and places to wear BDSM collars. <strong><em>These include:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>During sex or BDSM scenes<\/li>\n<li>While you\u2019re with your partner<\/li>\n<li>At <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/sex-party-etiquette\/\">fetish events<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/solo-bdsm\/\">During solo play<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You can also wear a collar 24\/7 in a non-stop BDSM dynamic. However, wearing discreet collars is best when out in public or at work.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"&quot;wherecanyoubuyacollar?\u201d\"><strong>Where can you buy BDSM collars?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>You can purchase BDSM collars from lots of online stores, but your best bet is an established kink or sex shop. Opt for brands with a good reputation and positive reviews, as these collars will be tested, more comfortable, and made from safe materials.<\/p>\n<p>Collars can also be found from independent retailers on websites like Etsy. Some even purchase collars from pet shops, which isn\u2019t recommended as they\u2019re not made for human wear.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"thetakeaway\"><strong>The takeaway<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Whether you\u2019re ready to dive into the world of collars or simply curious about what they mean, we hope this article has broadened your perspective. Next time you see someone with a dainty O-ring necklace, remember that it might have a deeper meaning than expected!<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vivastreet.co.uk\/blog\/\">Learn more about sex and relationships now<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever fantasised about wearing a collar while playing with your partner? Collars are a hot accessory that can help you dip your toes into the BDSM world and allow you to show your complete submission to your partner. Can you have a collar kink? How are collars related to BDSM? 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