Local Southampton Swingers

Southampton Swingers

Swinging is when you have some kind of sexual activity with other people. This could be a spur of the moment thing at a dinner party or a more pre-planned and organised affair at any number of private Southampton swingers clubs thoughout the country. It usually happens in fairly public areas like hotels, B&Bs, private clubs or private houses. Soft swopping is when you have sex with your partner whilst another couple are in the same room, usually having sex too. This is a way to dip your toe in the water of the swinging world without getting too involved.
Most people swing in Southampton because they want to have sex with other people, but do not want to cheat on their partners. It can make women more confident sexually and socially, and gives men pleasure either from watching their partners having fun, or because they are aroused by other people watching them.

Swinging was around since the dawn of man, but in modern times, the sexual revolution of the 60s really kick started the scene.

Despite what you may believe, swingers in Southampton usually have a lower incidence of STIs because they are more careful, generally use condoms and have more knowledge of STIs so can get them checked out at early symptom stage. Most swinging clubs or sex clubs in the UK and the USA are dry (you can bring your own alcohol, but many prefer to remain sober in case the alcohol impacts their sexual performance). This sobriety means that better decisions are made. There’s no drunken “oh go on then” when you find out your partner has “forgotten” their condom.

Back in the day, “Contact” magazines would contains listings of people that were interested in wife swopping or swinging. Now, of course, we have the internet. A quick search for your area plus Southampton swinging clubs will find you a surprisingly long list of club nights, private houses and private groups of people all of whom would be more than happy to have you along to their next sex party. If you are a single man you will find it, ahem, harder to get in. Couples and single ladies are the top of the list. Do your research online before you get involved. There are reviews and feedback you can find out from people who have been before. A little like trip advisor, but for swinging!

Set your ground rules beforehand. IF you’re going with a partner, discuss exactly what you are comfortable doing or seeing them do. It’s one thing to have a fantasy about swinging, it’s quite another thing when you are face to face with someone else’s junk. If someone approaches you, remember no means no. And a polite no thank you will stop any unwanted advances.
Be honest. Don’t say maybe later if you don’t mean it. Otherwise those people will come back later and you’ll have to turn them down again. Not easy on either swinging party.
Always ask first. Do not touch anyone without getting their permission. Although it’s a red hot Southampton swinging party, it doesn’t mean it’s a free for all.
Dress to impress. It’s not a work do. So dress up some! Remember to put your posh pants on too!
Be safe. Most clubs will have overflowing bowls of condoms. Use them. End of.