Regardless of how experienced you are in sex work, meetings with clients can sometimes be tense and awkward. While some clients are comfortable right from the get-go and make it a pleasant experience for everyone, many clients can be on the shy-er side and do not know how to set the mood.
And as a sex worker, it’s on you to ensure that the mood is right for the client and provide them with a romantic and sensual experience.
There are many ways to spice up the mood when meeting a client, but we’ve found that nothing works quite as well as music.
With the right playlist, you can melt away any tension or awkwardness when meeting a client for the first time. Not only will this help relax the client, but it can also get you in the mood, allowing you to perform better.
But what songs should you play to set the mood?
Well, that depends on your clients and your tastes. However, there are a few genres and songs that are consistent in setting a sensual mood.
- How does music influence the escort/client dynamic?
- How to use music to create a sensual atmosphere
- The best genres for bedroom scenarios
- The ultimate ‘Intimate Vibes’ playlist
In this article, we’re going through the best genres to use to set the mood with clients, how it can affect the dynamic, and how to use songs to create a sensual atmosphere. And we might even share our own sensual playlist.
How does music influence the escort/client dynamic?
Music is one of the most consistent parts of human existence. Every culture in the world has its own version of music, and studies have shown that listening to music releases dopamine and improves our mood. This is why playing music in the bedroom is great for setting the mood and deepening the emotions and sexual satisfaction you feel from the experience.
Have you ever tried having sex without music in your personal life?
Most people will tell you it can get awkward, so you can imagine the tension and discomfort when meeting a client for the first time and staying silent.
Playing the right jams loosens both you and the client up. And with the right tunes, you can instantly set a sexy and sensual scenario. Building a playlist for client sessions can be quite tricky, but when you do it right, you increase the satisfaction for both you and the client.
How to use music to create a sensual atmosphere
If you’re meeting a client and want to create a sensual atmosphere, using music is a great way to do that. For example, when both of you get to the location and start to unwind, you can ask if you can play some music. Or, you can even ask the client to play the music they would like, allowing them to feel more comfortable.
That said, if you’re playing music, make sure to choose the right jams. Music kickstarts emotions in our brains, and playing the wrong tune might get you in a different and non-sensual mood.
Additionally, you might want to keep the volume down. While you want to hear the music and allow it to influence your mood, you don’t want the whole session just to be you and the client listening to music.
You can reach a perfect balance where you can hear the music clearly, but it isn’t distracting. When meeting a client, this volume level is what you need to strive for, as it’s the best for setting the mood.
Additionally, while music is a great way to set the mood, it’s not the only thing you can do.
On top of using music, you can tweak the lighting, maybe light some scented candles, and create a whole sensory experience for you and the client.
Like with every aspect of sex work, there will be some trial and error when setting the mood with music. There will be times when you get it right and other times when you make a mistake, but that’s okay, and it’s bound to happen when building the perfect formula.
What songs or genres should you avoid?
Everyone has their own tastes, and many people would love to have sexual encounters while listening to songs you don’t immediately think of when trying to set the mood. That said, if you’re working with clients, it’s best to stay safe and avoid genres that aren’t typically used in the bedroom.
For example, many of us love pop music. And while some pop songs have a sensual vibe, it might be best to avoid this genre. Since this is such a familiar genre, the music can actually distract you from the sensual vibe and get in the way of the mood.
Additionally, you might want to stick to calming music. When meeting clients and setting the mood, you want them to relax and release tension.
So, genres like electronic dance music, disco, and heavy metal might not best fit for the bedroom.
There are always exceptions to these rules, but you don’t want to take that many risks when working in the sex industry. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying upbeat music in the bedroom, but for most clients, you’ll be better off going for the classic bedroom genres instead.
The best genres for bedroom scenarios
There are endless genres of music that you can play in the bedroom. But in our experience, these are some of the best genres to play when meeting clients. We’ve even included a selection of songs in each of these genres that you can add to your playlist.
RnB is nicknamed “bump and grind” music for a reason. These songs have an inherently sexy, sultry, and sensual trait to them. These are a favourite genre for many people when having sex, and it’s a great way to set the mood with clients.
These songs are also nicknamed slow jams, as they have a fairly slow tempo and a strong beat that makes them great for the bedroom. Again, you can choose any RnB song that would fit the bedroom. But if you’re having a hard time, here are our top choices for slow jams:
- “Adorn” by Miguel
- “I Want You” by Janet Jackson
- “All of Me” by John Legend
- “Love No Limit” by Mary J. Blige
When you play music with your clients, it’s important that you try to relax them. Often, clients and workers feel tense during their meetings, which gets in the way of the experience. However, a playlist that calms you down is a great way to set the mood, which is why we highly recommend smooth jazz tracks when setting the mood in the bedroom.
Smooth jazz is one of the most calming and relaxing genres. On top of that, many of the smooth jazz classics are known for setting up an intimate and sensual atmosphere. Here are some of our top picks for smooth jazz tracks
- “Blue in Green” by Miles Davis
- “My Funny Valentine” by Chet Baker
- “In a Sentimental Mood” by John Coltrane
- “The Nearness of You” by Billy Evans
- “Autumn Leaves” by Stan Getz
We mentioned earlier that you should try to avoid pop music when building a bedroom playlist. However, one sub-genre of pop that would be welcome in the bedroom is soulful pop. These jams were created to build a calm and connected atmosphere between two people. Not only will these songs allow you to release tension and relax, but they also get people in a sexual mood. Our recommendations for soulful pop tunes are:
- “Sexual Healing” by Marvin Gaye
- “Lovely Day” by Bill Withers
- “For Once in My Life” by Stevie Wonder
- “Don’t Know Why” by Norah Jones
- “I Believe in You and Me” by Whitney Houston
Some songs have been used to set the mood for years now. And while they can be somewhat a cliche at this point, they are still more than welcome in the modern bedroom. If you put them in the right playlist, these songs will instantly enhance the mood and provide a better experience for you and the client. Our favourite bedroom classics include:
- “At Last” by Etta James
- “Unforgettable” by Nat King Cole
- “Dream a Little Dream of Me” by Ella Fitzgerald
- “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis Presley
- “That’s All” by Nat King Cole
The ultimate ‘Intimate Vibes’ playlist
Music plays a big role in setting the mood, especially when you’re meeting new clients. Even if you’re experienced in the industry, there are times when there will be tension between you and the client. And if you ask any sex worker, one of the easiest ways for you to ease that tension and set the mood is with the right song.
Above, we mentioned some of our favourite sensual songs for setting the mood with clients. Feel free to use all of them in your playlist and mix in some of your personal picks. Don’t feel like spending time creating your own playlist? Listen to the Intimate Vibes playlist curated by Vivastreet – rest assured that this playlist will always have you and your client in the right mood during a session.