While the name ‘rainbow kiss’ might conjure up images of unicorns, candy, and rainbows, when it comes to sex it’s a whole different ball game.
What is a rainbow kiss?
A rainbow kiss involves two people performing oral sex on each other at the same time, while at least one of them has her period. Sound simple enough, right?
It doesn’t stop there, though, because once the couple has come, they then share a deep kiss, exchanging bodily fluids so they mix with the menstrual blood in their mouths.
What Urban Dictionary says
If you want a down-to-earth explanation of anything sexual, Urban Dictionary will give it to you straight. Since rainbow kissing is relatively unheard of, we checked to see what it has to say.
One definition reads “Performing 69 while a woman is on her period. The man ejaculates in the woman’s mouth and the two kiss, the menstrual blood and semen mixing to form a beautiful rainbow of colour”.
While another less romantic explanation is “When a guy gives head to a girl while she is having her period, and gets all the blood in his mouth. And a girl gives a guy head, and gets cum in her mouth. Now when the guy/girl has blood/cum in their mouth, they kiss each other”.
What is a rainbow kiss like?
A rainbow kiss is not for the faint-hearted, so if you are squeamish, it might not be for you. Messy, taboo, and definitely kinky, it will add to the excitement of oral sex as you know that climax is only the beginning of the journey, and not the end.
It can take a lot of control as you will need to climax together for the best results, because the semen (if used) or blood needs to be held in the mouth until the other comes, and that can be hard to do.
It’s the mixing of red and white that gives the term its ‘rainbow’ title as the two fluids swirl together to create a rainbow effect.
How do you do it?
The rainbow kiss can be performed with a male and female couple or it can be between a same-sex couple as long as one of them is menstruating.
The most-used method is the 69 position so that you can climax at the same time, or as near as you can, but it can also be done one at a time, with each party taking their turn separately.
This, of course, involves holding either the blood or the semen (if applicable) in the mouth until you’re both ready, so if this doesn’t appeal, you’re better off doing it simultaneously.
Once both of you have climaxed, you share a kiss while exchanging the bodily fluids, mixing it all together with the tongue as you explore each other’s mouths.
Rainbow kissing produces a vivid visual image that can really turn people on; both partners will get blood and other fluids all over their mouths and even faces, which in turn will add a dark and almost dangerous vibe.
Eventually, you both swallow the mix of menstrual blood, semen, and saliva.
Why do people do rainbow kissing?
There are several reasons why people enjoy rainbow kissing.
- For a start, it pushes the boundaries, and a lot of people get off on that idea alone
- It’s not ‘the norm’, and that in itself is a huge turn on
- It’s also a way for couples to experiment with period sex. That time of the month can seem like it’s ‘off-limits’ for many people, for a lot of reasons. The mess is a big no-no for some, as penetration can draw a lot of blood out of the body which will then be smeared all over the sheets. To a lot of people, periods are also somehow ‘dirty’ and should be avoided. Bleeding can also make some women feel self-conscious
- Rainbow kissing can be a way to buck the trend and reverse all the negative ideas surrounding menstruation. Even if a man doesn’t like the idea of having actual sex when his partner is on her period, he can still give and receive pleasure by using it as a time for mutual oral sex
- The mess associated with intercourse can also be avoided as, unlike penetration that literally ‘pumps’ the woman, having oral sex will allow the blood to flow naturally, and when it does it will go into his mouth instead of on the sheets
- But one of the biggest benefits to rainbow kissing is that an orgasm can stop period pain in its tracks. A lot of women will masturbate during their period for exactly that reason; rainbow kissing is simply an extension of that and one that she can share with her partner. While penetration doesn’t lead to a woman’s orgasm in the majority of cases, oral sex usually will
- Interestingly, it could also make her periods shorter as well as less painful, because the natural contractions caused by climaxing can cause the uterus to shed far more quickly
Is rainbow kissing safe?
As with any ‘new’ sexual practice, there is a question of safety, and rainbow kissing is no exception.
Aside from the risk of one partner not enjoying the taste or idea of blood, there are other risks associated that should be seriously considered. However, they are no different from the risks that come with any other unprotected sex act.
There are the usual STIs to consider, such as syphilis, gonorrhoea, herpes, and chlamydia, as well as diseases such as HIV and hepatitis B and C, the risks of which are increased by consuming blood.
It’s vital that both you and any potential partner are screened for these conditions to ensure safety for everyone concerned, as you can be free of symptoms and still carry the disease.
What the experts say about rainbow kissing
As you might expect with such an unusual practice, the experts’ opinions are divided.
Danyell Fima, co-founder of Velvet Co says “A rainbow kiss is a great way for everyone to enjoy the few minutes of cathartic bliss right after you both orgasm. Consider that the goal” and that it is “the pinnacle of showing comfort with and respect for your partner’s body and your own.”
Sadie Allison, PhD and TickleKitty.com founder is also in favour of rainbow kissing. She says “Like the hundreds of other fetishes out there, this ‘unique’ activity is perfectly okay to do so long as it’s agreed upon by two consenting adults.”
Yet another expert in agreement with the practice, Wendasha Jenkins Hall, PhD, says that “orgasms can actually help relieve menstrual cramps, so rainbow kisses may not be a bad idea for those who are adventurous and kinky.”
Not everyone shares this favourable view, though.
Ob-Gyn Heather Irobunda, MD, explains that “Semen and period blood can carry lots of different infectious particles, such as HIV, syphilis, and hepatitis…if you are unsure of your partner’s STD status, you should not be sharing rainbow kisses.”
And a tweet by Dr Harvey Olufunmilayo lists all the possible side effects of rainbow kissing, including diarrhoea and dysentery, as “all the risks of oral sex plus the menstrual blood”.
Is rainbow kissing for you?
Nobody can say whether rainbow kissing is for you or not. It’s certainly an acquired taste, but as long as you know the risks and take all the steps you can to eliminate them, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t at least try it.
You might find you love it, and you might find you hate it, but if you never give it a go, you’ll never know.