Sexual trends come and go, and as an escort, it’s important to know the ins and outs of the most popular sexual dynamics.
From open relationships to cuckolding, there are many multi-person sexual dynamics. But have you ever delved into the world of stag and vixen couples before?
Stag and vixen couples refer to heterosexual couples that indulge in extramarital relationships. Typically, these focus on the vixen (wife) meeting with other men. However, these meetings aren’t a secret. The stag (husband) watches and joins in. While the gender roles can be reversed, the Vixen is usually the active seeker of extramarital arrangements.
- Stag and vixen couples vs cuckolding
- Do stag & vixen couples have an open relationship?
- Benefits and drawbacks of working with a stag and vixen couple
- Top tips for working with stag and vixen couples: How to protect yourself
- Resources for stag and vixen escorts
Have you been approached by a stag and vixen couple? Or are you intrigued by this lifestyle? Whatever your motivations, keep on reading. We’ve gathered all the information you need before diving into this exciting play.
Stag and vixen couples vs cuckolding
If you’re new to stag and vixen relationships, you might be thinking that this dynamic sounds a lot like cuckolding. And you’re right – at first, they do sound similar. But there are some key differences that set them apart.
Unlike in cuckolding dynamics, the stag is not interested in humiliation. Instead, he is involved in the vixen’s extramarital relationships and joins the play.
In cuckolding relationships, the husband gets off on the humiliation of the scene. Cucks don’t enjoy joining in. In fact, many enjoy verbal humiliation from both their partner and the bull (the other man) while they watch.
So, these dynamics are closer to polyamorous relationships than cuckolding. There’s no humiliation of degradation involved — unless a certain scene is being played out.
Do stag & vixen couples have an open relationship?
Many assume that stag and vixen couples are in an open relationship. This isn’t a surprising suggestion, as the relationship dynamic does involve relationships outside the marriage. But this isn’t the case.
Stag and vixen scenarios are always planned out beforehand. Boundaries, sexual scenes, and limits are always discussed before anything starts. This is because the stag and vixen are essentially still a monogamous couple.
The majority of stag and vixen couples would even consider it cheating if their partner engaged in sexual contact with another if not discussed before. Pre-planning is essential to this relationship dynamic.
Dabbling in non-monogamy can be exciting, but it’s important to communicate clearly with your partner.
Benefits and drawbacks of working with a stag and vixen couple
Considering jumping into bed with a stag and vixen couple? Make sure you’ve considered the advantages and disadvantages before you do. Here are the top factors you should explore:
When working with this couple, you’ll likely have the chance to explore different scenes and positions. Couples who engage in this dynamic tend to be more open-minded, which can be more fun and freeing than standard client engagements.
If you’ve never experienced this dynamic before, you’ll have the chance to try something new. You might find that it’s something you enjoy or even want to apply to your own personal relationships.
Joining the the couple as a third party can help them improve their relationship. Many participants find that this dynamic improves communication and satisfaction within their marriage. When you fulfil their fantasy, you could be the saving grace for their marriage.
While this dynamic is popular, they’re not every sex worker’s favourite scenario.
For example, many avoid these relationships as they can become complicated – especially if the couple is new to the practice. This can leave you in awkward situations, and your professional time might be wasted. This is why consent, communication, and boundaries must be discussed prior to the scene.
In essence, staying on the same page at all times is a must.
Consent and communication in this dynamic
As mentioned above, consent and communication are paramount when working with stag and vixen couples.
Before you meet up and play, make sure you discuss boundaries. What kind of play are they interested in? Will both join in? Or will the Vixen be the only one playing? Are there any areas they want to avoid? These are all questions you need answers to before playing.
Consent and boundaries aren’t just important for the couple. As a sex worker, you also need to introduce them to your professional boundaries. What are you not interested in? Are there any activities you won’t do? Lay your cards on the table before the meeting.
Always remember, you can say no at any time. Need some extra info? Check out our complete A-Z sexual consent guide here.
Top tips for working with stag and vixen couples: How to protect yourself
Fired up and ready to go? Remember these quick tips before you jump in to make sure you’re protected:
- Discuss everything beforehand. From the sexual acts to the participants, make sure you’re clear on each step of the scenario
- Find out a little more about the couple. Have they engaged in this kind of play before? If so, what’s their usual routine?
- What are the couple’s expectations? Ask them what they’d like to achieve before you start
- Ask when their last sexual health test was. Nothing is sexier than a clean bill of health
- Discuss contraception, lube, and toys. Arriving prepared can make the situation much more fun
Resources for stag and vixen escorts
If you’re starting to work with stag and vixen couples but want a little more assistance, we’re here to help. These are the best ways you can prepare yourself for some stag and vixen fun.
Firstly, chatting with other sex workers can help you understand what’s common practice with stag and vixen couples. Escorts with experience in this niche can tell you about their experience and what you can expect from the couples. Connect with other escorts on Reddit, as there are large communities here for sex workers to discuss their careers in a client-free space.
See what real stag and vixen couples think on question boards like Quora or even Reddit. When you start searching, you’ll find that many stag and vixens post queries about their lifestyle. From there, you can learn more about what really goes on.
Get chatting with a sex work-friendly therapist. Sometimes, an unbiased perspective can help you determine whether you’re ready to dive in. Therapy is a great resource for sex workers, especially if you’re facing doubts or stress.
Stag and vixen relationships prove that couples are ready to push boundaries and break the norms. But are you interested in helping them fulfil their fantasies? Whether you’re a pro or new to the dynamic, we hope you’ve found some valuable information in this blog. Good luck and enjoy!