Zoom meetings and conference calls rarely feel sexy. So, what’s the buzz about virtual sexy parties?
In this article, we’re looking at the latest trend of video-conferencing sex parties, what to expect from one, and how to get involved.
- What is a virtual sex party?
- What to expect from a virtual sex party?
- Virtual sex parties vs in-person sex parties
- The takeaway
Set up your webcam, put on some lingerie, and let’s get started.
What is a virtual sex party?
As the name suggests, virtual sex parties are erotic online gatherings (through Zoom or other video-calling platforms).
Typically, these parties involve masturbation or sex acts on camera if you’re with a partner. Unsurprisingly, these online romps gained a lot of momentum during the lockdown and are now a staple for many couples and singles alike.
Why join a virtual sex party?
The main thrill of virtual sex parties is watching others or being watched. It’s the perfect way to tip your toe into voyeurism or group sex without having to meet anyone in real life. Many like the anonymity aspect and the possibility to watch or be watched by people across the globe.
If you’ve been fantasising about people watching you get down and dirty, webcam sex parties are a great first place to start. First, you’re in your own space and can turn your camera off anytime. Perfect if the nerves take over!
What to expect from a virtual sex party?
Virtual sex parties aren’t as simple as you might expect. Professionally organised events follow a structure and have “breaking the ice” sections to help participants ease into it.
Here’s a general overview of how an online sex party works:
1. You log on and the host greets you
Yes, you read that right – professional sex parties have hosts. These control the conference call (e.g. muting people and accepting you) and provide an outline for the evening.
Some parties have a handful of guests, whereas others have up to 50 members. The host usually mutes everyone to avoid people talking over each other. However, you can still use the text chat.
2. Introductions
Once everyone is online, the host starts the introductions. The host usually unmutes and pins each guest, allowing everyone to have a moment in the spotlight. This does feel a little like a team-building game, but it’s a great way to break the tension.
3. Warm-up acts
Depending on who’s hosting the sex party, there might be a warm-up act to further set the mood. This will usually be an exotic dancer or strip tease routine.
Alternatively, your host might play games or ask questions. These will nearly always be cheeky or sexual, and you answer in the text box.
4. The main show
After the introductions and warm-up acts, it’s time to get down to business. Sometimes, the host announces the start of the intimate section, but other times, participants just start arguing on screen. Once one starts, the rest usually follow.
In a Zoom with over 50 participants, it can be difficult to know where to look. The host will pin each person’s video for a few minutes to give everyone a fair chance. This is a much easier way to see all of the action than looking at the small Zoom cameras!
The main show can be whatever you want it to be (or whatever the party’s rules are). Most online sex parties allow full penetrative sex, masturbation, oral sex, and erotic dancing.
This part of the party continues up until the planned end time. Have fun.
Do you have to get naked at a virtual sex party?
Nope! Attending a sex party doesn’t require you to get naked or perform sex acts unless stated in the rules.
Plenty of singles and couples attend virtual sex parties to have a few drinks and watch. This could be because they’re scoping out the scene, enjoy watching over performing, or use the stream as foreplay before their own private romp.
Can you drink alcohol at a virtual sex party?
Yes. Some in-person sex parties are sober events to ensure everyone can give proper consent. However, the rules are more relaxed at online sex parties as you’re not in the same space. So, unless your chosen Zoom is a dry event, feel free to have a glass of fizz to get you in the mood.
For obvious reasons, drugs are not allowed.
Can you direct message other guests?
Part of the excitement of an in-person sex party is paying off with another and having an exciting experience. In virtual parties, you can message other participants with requests for solo calls or to swap information.
Before sending any messages, remember that no one is required to respond. A quiet response or polite rejection is unfortunate but nothing to get angry at.
Likewise, don’t type a rude reply if you receive messages from someone you’re not interested in. Offer a polite “no” and leave it at that.
If you receive a barrage of abuse at any point in the party, let the host know, and they’ll block the offender.
Virtual sex parties vs in-person sex parties
So, how do virtual sex parties vs in-person sex parties measure up? The main and most obvious difference is that you can’t actually engage with other guests via an online party. If you aim to meet new partners and engage in sex with others, online parties might not be best for you.
On the other hand, if you’re curious about spicing up your sex life or want to get it on with a live audience, Zoom parties are a great way to explore the scene without committing to a party. For many, virtual sex parties are the gateway drug that tells them sex parties are (or aren’t) in their future.
The takeaway
Whether you’re a bonafide sex party pro or new to the scene, Zoom sex parties are a great way to unleash your sultry side in the comfort of your own home. A quick Google search will reveal many options, but Killing Kittens’ “Your House – Global Online Parties” are undeniably the most popular. Don’t forget to turn your camera on…
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