As we age, our sexual needs and desires change. This happens slowly for some, but for others, it’s abrupt and sudden. But regardless of when these changes happen, many people go to escorts to find ways to satisfy their changing needs.
And as escorts, it’s important to understand these changes and make adjustments to satisfy your client’s needs. However, it’s also important to balance satisfying your client’s needs and drawing your boundaries.
The sex work industry is unique, and workers need to make adjustments that they probably won’t have to make in other lines of work.
- How and why sexual desires change as we age
- Common sexual concerns clients may experience at different ages
- Adapting your services to cater to your client’s sexual desires across the lifespan
- Creating a safe and comfortable environment for clients to explore their sexual desires across the lifespan
- The takeaway
This article explains the different changes in a person’s sexuality as they age and how escorts can tweak and change their services to cater to these needs. We’ll also touch on creating a safe and comfortable environment for both you and the client when exploring these desires.
So, keep reading to learn more.
How and why sexual desires change as we age
Our bodies and minds are constantly changing. And as we age, our sexual desires also undergo massive changes. Some of these are caused by our body’s natural ageing, while others are more of a psychological change. Either way, finding ways to properly satisfy these desires as we grow older is important.
On the psychological end, many people find sex more satisfying and fulfilling when they’re older. This could be due to the fact that there are fewer distractions, giving people more time to explore their desires. On top of that, the fear of getting pregnant is drastically diminished in older individuals, which is another major consideration.
That said, many older people have a hard time feeling comfortable in their own skin due to how the body changes with age. This can make it a bit harder for people to enjoy sex. And when you add the fact that our bodies may not be as strong when we’re old, sex is a very complicated endeavour when people age.
Sex can feel very different as we get older, and the way we approach it changes as well. Many people still look for escorts to satisfy their needs in their older age. However, as you might guess, catering to these needs might require you to adjust your services.
Why understanding a client’s changing sexual needs provides a more fulfilling client-escort experience
In the sex work industry, establishing relationships with clients is key. Providing a good experience usually means clients will come back for more. This gives you a more consistent income stream from people you’ve already screened and worked with.
One of the best ways to create a fulfilling sexual experience is to understand your client’s sexual desires across the lifespan. Now, you don’t have to satisfy all of their sexual needs. However, showing that you understand and listen to their needs can go a long way in creating the best experience for everyone involved.
Common sexual concerns clients may experience at different ages
Here are some of the major sexual concerns clients may experience as they age:
Medication affecting their sex drive
One of the concerns that older people have when they age is a greatly diminished sex drive. Many factors can cause this, however, one of the major driving causes of this is medication. When people get older, they require medications to help maintain their bodily functions. Sadly, a common side effect of many medications is a diminished sex drive, which changes the way people approach sex.
Erectile dysfunction
The risk of erectile dysfunction, or ED, grows as people get older. When men have a hard time sustaining a quality erection, they may be discouraged from having sex altogether. This is why having sex in your older age may require more effort, despite the fact that many people find it more pleasurable than when they were young.
Menopause
On the flip side, many people who menstruate undergo huge changes during menopause. For many people, this can affect their sex life. After all, the diminished sex drive and bodily changes are a lot to handle. However, those going through menopause still have a sex drive and have specific sexual needs.
Adapting your services to cater to your client’s sexual desires across the lifespan
When you are in the sex work industry, there’s a high chance that you’ll encounter clients of different ages. While this is natural, it’s important to understand that people’s sexual needs change with age. So, it’s important to adapt your services according to your client’s age.
To give you a better idea of how to do this, here’s a quick look at the different desires of people at certain ages and how to cater to their needs.
Young adults
For many men, their sex drive is at its highest when they are young adults, between the ages of 20 and 30. This is why they may be keen to explore unique kinks and fetishes. On top of that, men of this age are more active in the bedroom, which is something to plan around as an escort.
For women, the sex drive is there in their 20s, but some evidence suggests that this sex drive goes up as fertility goes down. As a sex worker, this is a major consideration as well.
Middle-aged clients
Many men retain their strong sex drive up until their mid-30s, with a slow decline starting in their 40s. However, middle-aged men may have less sex due to their work and other commitments. This means that many men looking for sex at this age desire an experience that allows them to detach from their daily lives completely.
In women, there’s a lot of evidence to suggest that their sex drive is strongest between the ages of 30 and 40. This is why the frequency and intensity of sex may go up for women in this age group.
Seniors
Estrogen and testosterone levels drop in women and men as they approach their senior years. This may mean that they have a much lower sex drive compared to when they were younger. On top of that, menopause, ED, and vaginal dryness are major considerations at this age, so the way seniors approach to sex is very different.
As an escort, it’s important to consider the age range of your clientele. As sexual desires across the lifespan change, your services need to cater to their particular needs.
Creating a safe and comfortable environment for clients to explore their sexual desires across the lifespan
When exploring sexual desires, creating an open and comfortable environment is important, regardless of age. Clients must feel comfortable exploring or communicating their desires with escorts, whether that be the Girlfriend Experience, roleplaying, BDSM, or a particular kink or fetish.
The best way to allow clients to feel comfortable discussing their desires is to create a non-judgmental and open environment. It’s imperative that your clients don’t feel judged when discussing their desires and the conversation remains constructive.
Tips for prioritising safety and consent when with a client
While your client should feel free to discuss desires and needs with you, it’s just as important to set boundaries with your client. Establishing the importance of safety and consent with a client is a top priority with escorts.
That said, this can be a tricky job, so here are a couple of tips to keep in mind to establish a healthy and safe environment with your client:
- Screen clients before setting up dates
- Talk to your client about their expectations and desires
- Be firm about your boundaries and what you will or won’t do
- Create realistic expectations for clients
- If something feels uncomfortable or unsafe, call off the date
The takeaway
Sex work and escort services vary greatly. And as you’ll see in the industry, people of different ages look for different experiences. If you’re looking to succeed in the industry, it’s important to understand these needs and offer services that satisfy them. That way, you don’t just bring in more clients, but you provide each client with the exact experience they’re looking for.
