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The sexiest erogenous zones and how to touch them


Do you know what triggers your arousal? 

We all have erogenous zones, but everyone is unique. When it comes to experiencing sexual pleasure, the orgasmic sensations you feel in a particular area may not be the same for another person.

There may even be some hot spots that you have not yet discovered.

Whether it’s for yourself or your partner, turn up the heat in the bedroom and discover new erogenous zones and territories here. 


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What are erogenous zones?

Erogenous zones are areas of the body that are sexually pleasurable to touch. This is because they have a heightened sensitivity, and when stimulated can result in sexual response.

These parts of the body are very sensitive due to the high concentration of nerve endings.

The degree of sensitivity for each zone can vary according to the number of nerve endings.

Likewise, responses to stimuli in these areas can also vary with each individual.

As previously mentioned, what stimulates one person may differ for another person. So if you experience sexual stimulation from feet, for instance, it doesn’t mean it will arouse your partner too.

Caressing, massaging, touching and exploring your own body and that of your partner’s is a great way to not only stimulate your and your partner’s erogenous zones but also discover exactly what turns you on sexually.

In addition to the variation from person to person, erogenous zones can also differ between women and men.


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Erogenous zones for women

A study by Eve Appeal, claimed that women’s bodies are “still shrouded in mystery”. According to their findings, 50% of men were unable to identify a vagina from a picture of a female body. Along with the vagina parts, here are the key erogenous zones for women, as well as tips for stimulating these sensitive zones.


Of course, the ultimate female pleasure organ. This part of the woman’s vulva, about the size of a pea, is the most powerful erogenous zone in the female body with more than 8,000 nerve endings. As the clitoris is extremely sensitive, the stimulus should be performed slowly and very gently, to begin with. Have your partner experiment with different touches, movements and intensity – here, orgasm is almost certain, so invest some time in this region.


You’ve almost certainly heard of the G-spot; it’s the most discussed female erogenous zone and known as the route to unspeakable orgasms. Located inside the vaginal opening on the upper wall, this sensitive spot is also overflowing with nerve endings. It’s actually connected with the clitoral network, as when stimulated, a part of the clitoris is being activated. The best way to work the G-spot is to discover what sex position and movement most stimulates this inner area for maximum pleasure.


Every region of the breasts can generate pleasure with sensual touching, but the most sensitive part is the nipples. One study explains that the sensation from the nipples shoots off to the same parts of the brain as the genitals, identified as the genital sensory cortex. Research has also shown that women can experience nipple orgasm through nipple play. Just be careful not to get too carried away with caressing, as this area is very sensitive and should be handled with delicacy. But for those who appreciate a more intense sensation, such as BDSM acts, it is possible to go ahead with more vigorous stimuli. If in doubt, start slowly, and always ask her if it’s acceptable to take it up a notch and build up gradually.


Man sensually touching woman's breast


With hundreds of sensory receptors and sensitive skin, the ears are one of the top erogenous zones for women and men. Start by lightly tracing around the ear before moving inwards for a little tease. Many people find kissing, licking, or lightly nibbling the earlobes quite pleasurable and relaxing. Whispering sweet nothings, quietly talking dirty, or soft-blowing can also create a tingly and erotic sensation.


Despite what many think, this erogenous zone is not about anal sex but focuses on caressing the outside area around the anus. As the buttocks contain a lot of fat and muscles, it’s not as sensitive as other erogenous zones, so it needs stronger stimulation such as kneading, patting or consensual spanking. If you want to take it a bit further, gentle rimming and light fingering inside the anus can work the sensitive nerve endings, resulting in a mind-blowing climax.


The inner thigh is close to the top ultimate erogenous zone, making it a receptive spot that even if lightly touched, can get the loins on fire. Have your partner kiss, nibble or lick the area, starting with the front and moving to the inner part of the thighs. As it’s packed with nerve endings, any touch will cause a heightened sensation.

Behind the knees

This area may not be an obvious erogenous spot, but the reality is the folds behind the knees are considered to be one of the main erogenous zones for women. Due to its thin skin and many nerve endings, this area is extremely sensitive, so any touch here will ignite strong sensations, which will run through the body. Massaging or stroking the area with the hands and fingers, coupled with light kisses will cause a most-welcome reaction.


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Erogenous zones for men 

Despite what many people believe, the groin area (or anything close by), is not the only erogenous spot for a man. Like women, men also have several parts of their body that depending on the sensitivity and intensity of the stimulus, can provide sexual pleasure and lead to orgasm.


As the primary male sexual organ, the penis needs no introduction. However, there are parts of the penis that are more sensitive than others. The shaft itself is prone to orgasms, and the best tip when masturbating the penis is to have a firm grip, as the erectile tissues are located deep beneath the skin’s surface. The glans or head of the penis is an area that requires more attention, as it has many more nerves than the shaft. Try creating an O-shape with your fingers and slide it up and down the glans, ensure that you keep it tight around the tip. Another way to heighten the pleasure sensations with of this erogenous spot is to have your partner lick the glans all over and incorporate a soft suction motion during oral sex.


The testicles are one of the most powerful erogenous zones on the male body. The sensitive tissues surrounding the testicles contain lots of nerve endings. Here your partner can hold, cup, massage, and stimulate this area with their tongue and lips. Take it one step further and ask your partner to try teabagging, to reach the peak of pleasure. Be warned the testicles are a very delicate/sensitive area, so gentle pressure should be applied to begin with before taking it to the next level. Stimulation in the testicles can also be achieved through masturbation – so why not try it together?


For men, the perineum is the region between the testicles and the anus. Its nerve endings make it a great source of pleasure, spanning all the way from the pubic bone to the anus. Right beneath the testicles, this erogenous spot can be stimulated by gentle pressing against it via your partner’s tongue or fingers. If he responds, amp it up a bit, and if for an even heightened and pleasurable experience, introduce anal play to the mix by allowing your partner to continue this motion, through to the prostate, otherwise known as the P-spot or male G-spot.


Although anal play is pleasurable for sexes, it is extremely stimulating for men, as this is where the prostate is located. The prostate is about the size of a walnut and packed with nerve-endings. When stimulated, it is known to cause a highly intense orgasm. Ask your partner to use their fingers or even their tongue to stimulate this area. Likewise, adding sex toys, like a prostate massager is another way to stimulate the area. If you’re not too keen on playing with the prostate, it can also be stimulated by entertaining the perineum.


Like women, the nipples also appear to be a top erogenous zone for men. According to The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 52% of men were more sexually aroused during nipple stimulation. Ask your partner to begin by massaging the breastplate. This can be followed by slow traces around the nipples and the areola using the fingertips. Here, the nipples can also be tweaked, for added effect. The use of the mouth to gently suck, tease and bite the nipples can also be done for extra stimulation.  


Woman about to stimulate man's nipple with her tongue

Shared erogenous zones 

Despite all the peculiarities between men and women, some pleasure zones are common among both sexes. Here are the main ones:


Often an overlooked erogenous zone, the palms and fingertips are some of the most sensitive areas to touch. Furthermore, a hand massage can help to relieve tension. Stroking your partner’s fingers with your own, and having your partner suck on your fingers, while making eye contact can be very intimate.


The neck is perhaps one of the most well-known erogenous zones by many people. The nape of the neck in particular, when touched, can be a massive turn-on. With a high blood flow and full of nerve endings, a single touch can cause a tingling sensation. Gently kissing or fingering the sides and front of the neck before travelling to the nape area can be orgasmic.


With the presence of nerves in the lower back, which is connected to the genitals, this region has a high potential for sexual stimulation. Many enjoy deep pleasure in this part of the body, from actions like a sensual massage. A good tip is to try a variation of hot and cold temperatures with thermal bags, or gel and oils to increase the intensity of orgasmic sensation to your partner’s most intimate spots.


Ever experienced a tingling feeling when someone runs their fingers or plays with your hair? This is because the scalp, like every other erogenous zone, is full of nerve endings. One of the biggest obstacles to arousal is the inability to destress and relax the body. A head massage can cause relaxation and release tension. Form gentle circles on your partner’s scalp using your fingers; let them get accustomed to the feeling before trying out different speeds and intensities. Pay close attention to the areas behind the ears and above the neck; these are sensitive spots that feel good and can set off other erogenous zones.


An area that shouldn’t be neglected, the abdomen/ stomach area is a highly sensitive erogenous zone. The fact that this pleasure zone is quite close to the genitals makes it a great teaser for those reproductive areas. Gently make circles around your partner’s navel, using your tongue, fingertips, or even a feather. Gradually start heading down to increase arousal.


Man kissing woman's stomach in bed

Explore some erogenous zones today 

As explained above, although we all have erogenous zones in our body,  there is no single map of erogenous zones for ultimate stimulation. 

Everybody is different, the areas which give us pleasure can vary from person to person.

If you’re interested in exploring erogenous zones, talk to your partner about what you both enjoy, then experiment with the different types of touches for these areas.


Disclaimer: Due to the current social-distancing measures, should you decide to participate in any sexual activity of any kind it should be with a person who you have been self-isolating or social distancing with. All parties involved should also have adhered to Government social-distancing guidelines.

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