If you’re booking an escort for the first time, you might want to keep your personal details a secret. However, ensuring your details are private isn’t that simple. Most escorts require proof of identity, but there’s a good reason.
- Can you protect your identity when booking an escort?
- How to be discreet when meeting an escort
- Reflect on whether booking an escort is right for you
- The takeaway
In this article, we’re looking at how to protect your privacy while passing escort screening procedures.
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Can you protect your identity when booking an escort?
If you’re new to booking escort services, you might want to hide your identity or use fake details for extra security. However, booking anonymous escort services isn’t very common, and most professional escorts will refuse to book you without ID verification.
Legitimate escorts will always ask for ID to verify that you are who you say you are. This is part of their screening process, which keeps them safe and ensures trust between both parties. If they accepted anyone without ID checking, it would put them in a more dangerous situation.
Of course, this feels uncomfortable for many clients, especially if they’re new to the process.
However, take a moment to think of it from the escort’s perspective. Having their client’s ID gives them extra protection in the very rare case where a client tries to harm them.
Any professional escort will never use or share your ID. It’s purely a routine safety check that’s been used in the industry for decades. Luckily, there are other ways to keep your sessions discreet, and we’ll discuss these later in the article.
What’s a screening process?
Above, we discuss the standard “screening process”, and we’ll quickly explain what this is for anyone new to the industry.
A screening process allows escorts to find out whether clients are unsafe, scammers, or dangerous before they arrange a booking. During screening, escorts tend to ask for photo ID, personal questions, social media accounts, and whether your name appears on sex worker blacklists.
Why do escorts use screening processes?
Escorts use screening processes to keep themselves safe and to ensure you’re a genuine client. Here are some of the benefits of escort screening processes:
- Better safety practices
- A more professional client-provider relationship
- More confidence during the session
- Builds trust between the client and the escort
- Proves that the escort is a professional
At the end of the day, if an escort doesn’t screen you, it’s a red flag. Any professional escort who knows how to run their business screens clients. So, if they don’t ask you to verify your ID, you might not be booking safe or high-quality services.
How to be discreet when meeting an escort
Meeting with escorts is personal, and you don’t want your ID or business to be made public. Here are some of the best ways you can ensure your escort bookings are discreet.
Choose a high-quality escort
Not all escorts have the same level of experience or discretion. Therefore, if you want higher levels of privacy, you need to opt for professional and experienced escorts.
Look for adverts on reputable websites (like Vivastreet) to find a genuine escort. You should also look for verified profiles. While there are some genuine escorts on social media, there are also more scams. Consider this before booking a session on Instagram or Snapchat.
You may also want to cross-check whether your potential escort has posted on different platforms to verify their authenticity.
Agree to their screening process
Revealing your identity might feel counterintuitive to keeping your identity private. However, your escort will be the only one to see identity documents, and it guarantees a safe and professional experience.
Remember, if your escort has a screening process, it proves they take safety measures and don’t see clients without rhyme or reason. Would you meet a random stranger off the street? If not, don’t expect your escort to.
No established sex worker is interested in blackmailing you. They just want to ensure you’re genuine and to get the screening process over with.
Note: If an escort asks you to enter your card details on a “verification site”, it’s a scam. The escort themselves always does the screening process, and you should never pay to be verified.
Consider where you book your meeting
Many escorts will already have an incall vs outcall preference. If they prefer incalls, you don’t have to worry about anyone seeing an escort arrive at your home. However, if they want to book an outcall, consider whether it’s better to invite them to your home (where a neighbour might see them) or to book a hotel.
Not only is a hotel better for your privacy, but it’s a safer option for the escort, too. Many escorts refuse to visit client’s houses altogether, especially on the first booking. So, you don’t need to worry about anyone you know seeing you together unless they happen to be staying at the same hotel. This is very rare and nothing to worry about at all.
Be courteous and respect their boundaries
Finally, once you’re at the booking, be polite and courteous. Respect their boundaries and remember to use consent. When you treat your escort with respect, you’ll always have a better experience and a more satisfying time.
If you start pressuring your escort, become aggressive, or even violent, then you risk your identity being put on a client blacklist. These lists help sex workers inform each other of clients who are dangerous to work with.
Reflect on whether booking an escort is right for you
If you’re very uncomfortable with the idea of showing your ID to an escort, you might need to reflect on whether seeing an escort is right for you. It’s normal to feel nervous, but a strong fear of your identity being stolen or leaked might overshadow the experience and make it difficult to enjoy.
There are plenty of other sex work experiences you can explore that don’t require ID checks, such as camming or phone sex. These are just as sexy and don’t require strict screening processes.
Hopefully, this article has helped you understand why it’s important for escorts to see your ID before meeting. Remember, giving your ID documents to an escort doesn’t mean they will be leaked or shared. It simply means the escort sees you’re a genuine client and will be more willing to work with you.
Learn more about booking escorts and sex work in general for clients here.