Having traditional sexual activities or using the same old sex toys can make life banal and could eventually harm your relationship. This is exactly the reason why other kinds of sensual ideas came to life, and total power exchange is one of the most thrilling.
In a total power exchange (TPE) relationship, the couple agrees to a permanent, 24/7 relationship in which the man or woman has complete authority over his partner. It allows them to completely abandon their everyday lives and devote themselves entirely to one another in a submissive way.
- What is a TPE relationship?
- Why do people enjoy TPE?
- How is TPE different to a dom/sub relationship?
- Terms and contract in total power exchange
- Rules in TPE
- Getting started with TPE
- Misconceptions about TPE
- Are you ready to give up power?
But since this 24/7 total power exchange arrangement is a relatively new thing, it’s sometimes confused with BDSM. For this reason, and because it’s not only about sex, we will go through all the details of this relationship that could make your life more exciting in every single way.
What is a TPE relationship?
TPE is an acronym for “total power exchange.” In a TPE relationship, one person (the dominant partner) has complete control over the other (the submissive partner). While TPE is often regarded as a sexual thing, it can include everything from what the submissive partner eats and drinks to what they wear and even take important life decisions on their behalf.
The dominant partner may also decide what kind of sexual activity the couple engages in and what roles each person will play during sex. In some cases, the dominant partner may even control the submissive partner’s orgasm. While this may sound extreme, many people find that TPE relationships are deeply satisfying and provide a level of intimacy that is impossible in other types of relationships.
If you are interested in exploring TPE, it is important to find a partner who is both compatible and willing to engage in this type of dynamics. Alternatively, if this is something new for your other half, you will want to start the conversation slowly and get your point across without offending them.
Why do people enjoy TPE?
TPE is a unique way of enjoying power dynamics in relationships. It’s a way of exploring different roles and finding out what works best for you and your partner. It’s also a great way to add some spice to your relationship. TPE can be a fun, creative way to learn new things about yourself and your partner.
It’s also a great way to build trust over an already solid relationship, communication, and intimacy. For instance, letting the partner decide what you eat or take key decisions will show you that you can fully trust them.
And it can be a great way to explore your kinky side. TPE might be just what you’re looking for if you need a fresh start in your relationship.
How is TPE different to a dom/sub relationship?
TPE is different to a dominant/submissive relationship in several ways. For one, TPE is based on the principle of equal exchange – both partners are equally invested in the relationship and share responsibility for its success or failure, despite having different roles.
This stands in contrast to a dominant/submissive relationship, where one partner is typically more invested than the other and may feel like they are carrying the weight of the relationship on their shoulders.
In addition, TPE relationships are built on trust, respect (despite the first impressions), and communication, while dominant/submissive relationships may focus more on power dynamics and control.
Finally, TPE relationships are fluid and can change over time, while a dominant/submissive relationship may be more static. Ultimately, TPE is a unique and special kind of relationship that offers its own set of benefits and challenges.
Terms and contract in total power exchange
Contracts shouldn’t be judged as legal but as safety and protection measures, “just in case.” Calling a contract in technical partnership legal may seem very formal, especially in a solid relationship where both parties are supposed to trust each other fully. Yet, it’s a means to protect against disagreements.
Contracts start with determining the roles in the relationship, as in the dominant and the submissive. But, above all, in the contract, the different activities and behaviours are agreed upon and written. Such as the master’s conditions, the tasks, and the punishments for breaking the rules. There will be a list of hard and softer limits, but if one of both partners is against an act, it must be respected at all costs.
A soft limit is an activity that you feel uncomfortable about but also want to try. No matter what the soft limit is, it should be considered and done slowly to make it safe and pleasurable for both parties.
On the other hand, hard limits are those you won’t do under any circumstance because they humiliate you, give you anxiety or panic attacks, or invade your privacy. These hard limits include weird fetishes, A-Level, or anything that is simply too much for one of the partners, may it be sex-related or not.
Rules in TPE
Every TPE relationship is different, but there are some common general rules that most couples follow.
Edging is when the submissive partner is not allowed to come until the master grants them permission. The purpose of delaying the orgasm is to heighten the experience and reduce the tension so that it lasts longer. The delay also allows time for a new memory/sensation to form, which can be incorporated into future play.
Pet play allows the dominant partner to treat the submissive person as a pet and use a leash around the home to get around and crawl on hands and knees. Apart from that, the submissive partner may have to eat on the floor and out of a dish. While very rare, pet playing can be seen on the street, and you may spot a couple in public taking their experience to the next level.
Bathroom control serves as a boundary but isn’t close to the extreme edge; in fact, this practice is getting more common among TPE couples. In this case, the submissive partner must ask permission to go to the bathroom, and the dominant one may refuse and only allow it after a few minutes.
Note that, while this is part of the game, it should not be used too frequently or for too long, as holding your urine may cause health complications.
Sleep dominance and control is a further rule or punishment that also needs common sense. When sleep dominance is incorporated into a TPE relationship, the submissive partner must ask permission from their master to sleep and what time they must wake up. While this is about dominance, the master could use this to keep the submissive partner healthy, sleeping between 6 and 8 hours.
Time and finance control
In a total power exchange relationship, one person has complete control over time and finances. In order to fully understand and enjoy this type of relationship, both partners must be willing to surrender control over their time and finances.
For example, the master can choose to pay for everything or to provide an allowance to the submissive partner – in some cases, the submissive partner will be asked to quit their job.
The same goes with time, as the dominant partner will make the schedule for the submissive person, and the latter will need to ask permission for any change.
Getting started with TPE
To get started and have a successful total power exchange relationship, both partners should be on the same page. This means that they both understand and agree on the new dynamics and limits.
If your partner is not willing to engage in a sub/dom relationship, then you should talk to them about it and get your point across.
Explain why this type of relationship is important to you and how it could benefit both of you. If they are still not interested, then they may need some time to understand your point of view and what motivates you.
Misconceptions about TPE
Despite being a common way of living for couples, TPE still has some misconceptions that need to be clarified.
It’s all about sex
That is one of the most common misconceptions about TPE relationships, and it couldn’t be further from the truth. Obviously, this does extend to the bedroom, but it’s only about that and has to do with much more than that.
Both the submissive and dominant partners will have their personal space and, generally, their work and schedule. The difference is that the dominant partner will have a say in most cases, if not all, and the submissive partner will be fine with that.
For instance, if the master wants to eat Chinese one night, then the submissive partner will only agree.
The submissive partner is abused
When people think of a submissive partner, they often think of someone who is being abused. This is not the case in a TPE relationship. It’s important to understand the difference – the submissive partner is not being abused but, instead, is willingly giving up their power to their dominant partner.
This type of relationship can be very beneficial for both partners involved. The dominant partner gets to have complete, or near, control over their partner, while the submissive partner gets to experience feelings of trust, submission, and safety.
TPE relationships are not healthy
Many people think that a total power exchange relationship is unhealthy and abusive, but this is not the case. In fact, TPE relationships can provide many benefits to both parties involved.
One common benefit of TPE relationships is that they can help reduce stress. When both parties know their roles and responsibilities within the relationship, it can lead to a more relaxed and calmer atmosphere.
Another benefit of TPE relationships is that they can help improve communication skills. Since both parties are required to be open and honest with each other, it can lead to better communication in all areas of life. Finally, TPE relationships can help boost self-esteem, not only in the bedroom.
Are you ready to give up power?
In conclusion, a total power exchange relationship can be a rewarding experience for both the dominant and the submissive. However, it is important to remember that this type of relationship requires a lot of trust and communication. If you are thinking about entering a TPE relationship, be sure to do your research and talk to your partner first.